Borderline Personality Disorder and Emotion Dysregulation

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Borderline Personality Disorder and Emotion Dysregulation

Emotional troubles are a significant part of many mental disorders, including borderline personality disorder (BPD).

We have an entire system of our brain, the limbic system, dedicated to emotion. Additionally, our emotions creep around the brain, attaching themselves to our thoughts and influencing our behaviors.

If you live with borderline personality disorder, your emotions might feel overwhelming and out of control sometimes (emotion dysregulation). Emotions make you believe that what you feel is real and undeniably true.

For example, you notice your partner texting. When you approach him, he closes out of his phone and sticks it in his pocket. Your emotions tell you that he’s cheating, and your whole mind and body become upset and respond negatively.

Tame the Emotions of Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder makes it hard to trust. Use that to your advantage with your emotions because they’re not always trustworthy. To tame them, turn away from them. Here’s a way to do it:

  • Forget feelings. They’re there, of course, but don’t get stuck.
  • Focus on fact. What is actually happening? Your partner was texting then put away his phone. That’s it.
  • Repeat these basic facts to yourself to tame emotions.

When you forget feelings and focus on the facts in the moment, your emotions will likely keep talking, but they’ll be quieter. Then you can tune into the real moment.

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APA Reference
Peterson, T. (2018, February 12). Borderline Personality Disorder and Emotion Dysregulation, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, June 18 from

Last Updated: October 27, 2022

Medically reviewed by Harry Croft, MD

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