Anxiety Says Everyone Hates Me

Hey i need help i am having the same thing but worse . I lied to my class mate and now the keep on bringing it up as a joke and i cant avoid it . My anger keeps on geting up . I have been called a person to keep disturbing people .i dont know what to do . I am only a 9th grader and i need help if someone can pls try to contact me -Prateek Singh

yea so what? like the suggestions to solve anxiety won't help everyone, especially for depression and suicidal thoughts. But yet people tell you to call the suicide prevention line. Im not even going to bother because they probably going to talk down to you or force you on medication. Let me tell you, even if you reach out to them, their going to think your mental or have some chemical imbalance in your brain.
Im not trying to bash anyone, but its the truth. Am i experiencing anxiety or having suicidal thoughts? YES I LIVED WITH IT FOR 6 YEARS STRAIGHT, IM 19 SO ITS BEEN A LONG TIME SINCE IVE LIVED WITH IT BUT I DO NOT DARE TELL ANYONE. NOT EVEN MY FAMILY KNOWS ABOUT WHAT IM GOING THROUGH, LIKE NOT KNOWING THE REAL ME, IM SMILING AND LAUGHING BUT INSIDE IM DROWNING IN MY OWN TEARS OF SORROW . ITS NOT THE TYPE OF SADNESS THAT CAME OUT OF NOWHERE, ITS THE TIME WHERE EVERYTHING WENT WRONG WITH MY LIFE FROM SOCIAL TO ACADEMICS. IF I HAD A CHECKLIST OF OF THE NEGATIVE THINGS, I WOULD CHECK THEM ALL. OF COURSE I HATE MYSELF, I BLAME EVERYTHING BECAUSE SIMPLY I WAS BORN INTO THIS GOD FORSAKEN WORLD. SUICIDAL THOUGHTS DOESNT MEAN IM ACTUALLY GOING TO COMMIT SUICIDE BUT I WISH AND PRAY THAT I GET KIDNAPPED AND KILLED OR HIT BY A CAR, STABBED. YOU NAME IT! BUT IM NOT STUPID AND SELFISH ENOUGH TO DO IT MYSELF.
DID YOU KNOW THAT I FEEL BURSTS OF SICKNESS WHEN I THINK ABOUT MY LIFE, MY FUTURE, MY PERSONALITY AND MY FAMILY( NOT LIKE I HATE THEM) ITS HARD TO DESCRIBE. I GET THIS OVERWHELMING SENSE OF PUKING AND THROWING UP.
IM NOT SAYING ANYMORE

I kind of panic when I call people and they don't answer. I think I shouldn't have called and that I'm being bothersome. I wish I could go back and not call, but at the same time, I called because I want to hear from them. When I text people and they don't text back I assume they don't want to talk to me. I struggle with low self esteem, depression, and anxiety. I feel lonely even when I shouldn't. It's really hard being away at school. Now it's to the point where when people call me back I am beginning to think they aren't doing it because they like me or want to talk to me but because they feel like they should. I feel like I shouldn't blame them for not wanting to call because why would they want to. My best friend has been super busy lately working multiple part time jobs while going to school. I feel bad because I always go to him when I'm sad or anxious and now that he is so busy I feel like a burden and when he doesn't text me back I to panic thinking that I must be a burden to him. And I know he is my friend and that I'm being irrational but I can't stop feeling that way. I don't want me freaking out to ruin our friendship and I'm super scared to lose him. I feel kind of stupid and insignificant sometimes like why should my friends care? I also feel pretty stupid and I don't know how to fix it. I don't know what to do and I need help please. How can I fix my screwed up thinking and how can I calm down when I freak out? And how can I talk about his to my friend when he doesn't really want to talk about it and I don't want to push him away? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I can relate to this a lot. I'm not as driven however. My anxiety is so crippling for me. I also have selective mutism and depression as well.
I'm very quick to jump to the worst conclusions about people. I feel like I'm always being treated like I'm wrong or I shouldn't have a voice. Even trying to explain it to family I get scolded for blaming them for something they aren't doing. That I'm too sensitive and too accusing. I don't mean to be and I have told them that.
I get mad at friends on Facebook when they ignore all my other posts except the one i have an opinion on. There again i think I'm being scolded and shut down.
I hate my voice almost more than my thoughts. People don't get that. It makes them uncomfortable that I'm quiet but when I speak I normally get spoken over. So.. I become frustrated.
I have no drive to do things because I feel no one will take time to understand me. Where I try and take time to understand them.
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Sorry for the long comment I just needed to try and vent.

I get the feeling of people hating me once in a while, especially every time my girlfriend doesn't want to come over or hang out. She says that she loves me and my friends tell me that she would never leave me but I just get this sense shes pissed at me or that she hates me. Its happened with my other friends too, I feel like everyone will just leave me. I get stressed out a lot from this, is there any techniques to help with this? I would really appreciate a response.

Hello. This post was amazing! I didn't know my condition had a label or diagnosis. I truly thought I was very much a pessimist. Even better, I'm not alone in this behavior. If their is assistance, guided therapy for 1 person, I will rest assured I can overcome this. Thanks so much

My name is Miranda. I am 14 years old. Wow. Where do I begin? You know that feeling you get when you feel that everything around you is falling apart? Well, that's me too. Last year I got a very concussion and it caused me much stress and anxiety and feelings I never thought that I would feel. My concussion progressively got worse and harder to deal with. I would have these "episodes" where I would cry and cry and cry uncontrollably because I felt like I couldn't go on. A little seventh grader. Feeling the need to Durand to escape from unbearable pain. I went to all sorts of doctors, took medicine, physical therapy, counseling, and I missed a lot of school. It has been over a year and It seemed like things were back to normal. Although I still take anti-depressant medicine every single day. Until these past few weeks I feel like my whole world is coming down on me. I have several break downs a week and feel so utterly alone. I have lost most of my friends and feel so unwanted and unappreciated and forgotten. I realize that a mental illness is something that others cannot see, something that you can't always see healing like a broken arm or bruise. And I think that's why it's so hard is because no one, not even your family can see the suffering inside you or can see you falling apart or crying yourself to sleep. Ever since I was younger all I ever wanted was a group of friends who would love me for me and help me in times of need. Friends you can do stuff with and who share the same values as you. But I have never gotten that no matter how hard I try how much effort I put in. I'm still that girl sitting all alone at lunch and walking alone in the halls. Each day I pray and I pray that I may find the strength that I need to keep going and not give up, but it seems I have lost hope. This world is so wicked and hard and at times it feels that we don't have a purpose or a place where we belong. But deep down I know that we all have a plan and we are given trials for a reason. But sometimes life gets the best of me and makes me feel so unliked and unwanted. Typically I am full of joy and laughter but at the end of the day I am miserable. I am seeking for help and for answers so that I may find my place and find a sliver of hope. I know that no one will probably never see this or never read any of this but I guess that's life. Isn't it?

Hi there. So I just had a very rough night with my girlfriend and am now doing research to figure some things out.. What was said in this article is exactly what she explained to me tonight and how she always feels. She thinks she is crazy and is screwed up because she feels like this and doesn't know why or what it is.. I tell her the exact opposite of what she thinks but of course her state of mind tells her differently. This is also just really starting to surface with her more recently and she is blaming herself for ruining our relationship which is actually doing the opposite of ruining. She just doesn't see it... So I am just not sure what to do. I know I have to be there for her but I can't seem to figure out what I can do to help her or even find help. She's scared she'll lose people because they'll get annoyed with her. She's even scared of losing me when I tell her time and again that I'm not going anywhere.. I wouldn't change her because this is the person who I fell in love with. But it's eating away at her which breaks my heart..

This is how I feel

I feel similarly to what's described above - as if everyone dislikes me on sight, people I know disrespect me, ignore me, are angry with me, are ridiculing me, want me out of their lives, etc. etc. I know this couldn't really be true in every case, or even in most cases, but it sure feels like it.
I end up feeling guilty like the writer, though. I just feel sad, hurt, angry. My coping mechanism has mainly become the avoidance of interaction with others as much as possible. Makes for a lonelier life but it really is better than how I feel when interacting with people. It's bard enough dealing with others for my job - it's a relief to be alone after work hours because I'm not dealing with the constant feelings of being disliked, disrespected, etc.
Can't recall a time in my life that I didn't feel like this, that I didn't feel people treated me like this. If there's a solution, or even better coping mechanisms than hiding from the world, I haven't found it and I've dealt with these feelings for a very long time. Since childhood.

Thank you for the courageous blog and the commentary that follows. It has helped me to understand more fully the emotional distress and the social challenges faced by someone I love very much.

Sir I'm arun 1 day a person told you have get mad that'stimes to I'm thinking I have mad why this negative thoughts avoid it please help sir tell me a solution

My wonderful spouse lives with social anxiety. She trys so hard to live perfectly, be kind to others and support family. But with people being people, no one can live up to never being annoyed, tired or just sometimes down-right mean. It tears her up sooo much. We no longer can go to family get-togethers because of a family member who "is mad at her", "who glares at her" who "won't respond to peace making gestures". I end up trying to explain why these people who she sees as hating her act, but this makes things worse. Any advice on how I can help??

Gabe, I'm 33 years old and still single. I don't own a car or not even a house.
even no any savings.
I'm easily nowadays get tired and not confident. I can't and don't know to perform well in my work, neither in my life.
I started to feel everyone around me don't like me at all.
I always getting 100% negative thoughts in my mind. Such as will my future wife or girl friend (lover) will be good or play fool behind me. Will my future be bright.
Will I success in my life. Am I in my right path. I don't know what should I do.
I always alone. I don't have anyone to share, because everyone busy with their own life and problems. I always feel why I were born here and what is the purpose.
Do you know when I were small kid, I use to scared of dead, but now I'm waiting for it because can't stand anymore my life here in this world.
I'm like a boat without a peddle that just follow the stream where it goes and lead without knowing where it would bring me. I've been like this in my whole life.
Yes, its easy to listen and to advice but its difficult to follow because everything and time and life change everyday, every hours and every seconds. Seems like I hate everyone around me and myself.

I'm an artist, but I spent so much time fighting the inner voice of being worthless and useless that I gave up attempting to practice and improve because battling my thoughts exhausted me. I still manage to work as an artist, but my job is the only way to quell the inner voices because I have to get it done - I'm afraid to fail in meeting my obligations. In the last couple of years, I just gave up on people, especially, after I had my son. I tried a few times to get together with people, but it seems like their schedules were always so busy, so I gave up. I generally feel like a nuisance and a bother. Like, I really am just in the way. Now, I just resent and sometimes hate the people I did have as friends who disappeared after I had my son. Unfortunately, my husband has a bunch of anxiety related to his verbally abusive, neglectful mother, and other childhood issues and we're not very kind to each other anymore. I think about suicide a lot as escaping, but it's more just wanting to escape than anything. I do want to see my son grow up, and I'm scared to be nothing but a negative experience in his life. I'm scared to death that he doesn't love me and will only grow up to resent me. I know I have a lot of emotional maturity issues. My mom was very overprotective, and I spent a lot of time alone growing up. My brother had substance abuse issues, as well, while I was growing up and an entire set of rejection issues for him which affected us all. I'm proud of where my brother is now in his life, but its taken him a long time to get there. My dad has his own emotional immaturity issues from his childhood neglect though he's been a great loving support in my life and my son's, and I don't know what I'd do without him, but it's taken me years to grow up to where I am. I have no friends and feel so isolated. Any more I have little time to engage in any kind of relaxing. It feels like I'm always on, always doing something for somebody and can't ever release stress from morning to night daily. My husband and I work opposite schedules - and, honestly, he chooses grave schedules because he has an anxiety of being around large groups of people. I spend a lot of time resenting him. Life feels like this unending hamster wheel of misery sometimes - especially with the struggles of trying to get my almost 4 year old boy to potty train and eat anything healthy which is a daily source of frustration. Don't get me wrong, my son's a sweet, wonderful little boy, I'm just starting to realize that maybe screwed up people like us, don't get to have happy joyful families. We don't learn how to raise children and have no family support or generational knowledge to help. Life just feels like a Murphy's Law of failure - like this irritating pebble in my shoe of missteps and poor choices. I tried to be peaceful and let life be joyful this weekend, be intentional with my son, and my husband and I got in an argument where I threatened to divorce him because he just wouldn't stop being negative and angry and critical. It all just sounds like a bunch of complaining, but I just want to run away sometimes. I just have nobody to talk to, and I'm tired.

This perfectly puts words to the way I've been feeling. It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one. Thank you for sharing, I wish you all the best!

I have been struggling with anxiety for quite a while now. Not many people know about it. I'm not sure if my anxiety is leading me to think that I annoy everyone and that everyone hates me or if it's true. I always feel like I annoy people when I talk to them too much even if they say that I don't annoy them. It makes me scared and it makes me feel like I have done something wrong. Any advice?

My anxiety prevents me to be around crowds, stores, elevators ect... I'm afraid all the time. I take meds for this but still have these problems. Can anybody help!

I, too, struggle with social anxiety. Sometimes I feel good and like I'm able to have great, normal interactions with people and a lot of times I worry that everyone hates me, or think I'm cold or a bumbling idiot because I frequently struggle with social interactions. I know that there are lots of personality types that make the world go 'round and have come to believe that social anxiety is common among people who are highly sensitive in nature which makes us great at careers in fields like science, math and the arts. I often wonder if it weren't for social anxiety if humanity would have innovators like Einstein or even Mark Zuckerberg , who probably stayed away from people to develop new ideas in their own comfortable bubble. So there's a part of me that embraces my awkwardness because I know that it aids me in self-isolating and doing what I love to do: which is to write. As highly sensitive people, I think we should embrace our alone time and channel it into pursuing creative (or inventive) dreams, while also continuing to make time and efforts to attempt to be social no matter how difficult it can sometimes be. I wish everyone the best with their journey's. I am working on embracing this part of myself, recognizing it in others and just doing my best to show love and care to all people I interact with, and know that as long as my intentions are good, people will hopefully feel that from me (no matter how my brain may try and make me feel about it later). Best to everyone!

WOW! When I read this I was shocked, amazed, relieved and so much more. This article could have been written by myself! But it was certainly written about me to a t!! Apart from the Bipolar. I do not have a diagnosis of Bipolar. I do have ADD though. Gosh so enlightening thank you. I am going to keep a copy of this to show friends and family in the hope they may one day understand me.

I feel so alone in this. Whenever I argue with someone I cry. I feel like I can't believe that I have caused someone to be so mad at me. My mom says it's a maturity thing (she doesn't have anxiety). She has said multiple times that some people just won't like you and you can either take it or leave it. Which is true, yes. But she doesn't consider the mental aspect behind it. Like me having meltdowns is just me being immature. She says the same thing when other adults do the same thing. I need some help and advice. Is it immature to have meltdowns when I feel like I've wronged someone and that the think I'm an idiot. Or is it anxiety?

I am in the military and believe it or not i feel the same way when I communicate with co-workers and people in my squadron...i feel like I am a burden on anything and everything when it comes down to social interaction whether work related or not. Obviously im going to go get some help with this and see what i can do to reverse it. Been a hard road on the mental aspect of things

I can totally relate... when ever someone doesn't react me back especially after I tell them something I instantly think that they are mad... or even if they don't talk that much I'm like r u mad and they say no im just tired... but my friends tend to also stay mad at me bc they know it gets to me. I don't tell them to stomp bc I'm afraid that they will be mad. They are not bad friends they don't know how it hurts me but I just can't stick up for myself

I was wondering if you got picked on when you were younger and have actually heard some one bad mouth you if that could have to do with the way my brain thinks.

I've been feeling this way for years now. I constantly believe that everyone is out to get me, everyone has a secret ways of communicating that I don't understand. I get so caught up in my thoughts that I really believe they are true. The way I feel about myself i automatically think everyone else feels that way about me. I slowly feel like I'm losing my mind. I get annoyed super fast and I don't want to talk to anyone. I just want my life back. I want to be able to laugh and interact with my family and friends. Someone please help

I am releived to find this forum. I feel so alone in this small quaint town..everyone has a place and I am working hard at making genuine connections with people. Its been 3 years of torture isolating in an out..I wear a smile greeting people asking them if they want to hang out after a couple times chatting of course..but nothing seems to go thru. I have alot of anxiety Im thinking its social bc i hate gatherings and fear sweeps over me panic attacks..party or wedding..ect. evn important meetings i studder and say shit i shouldnt..i am so frustrated and sad wondering what is it that people dont like about me? Ive been bullied my whole life school job..I think their right bc its the mesagae ive heard my whole life. Your not good enough or u wont be anything special why try? I grew up with Narsasstic abuse amd its takin a heavy toll on my life health spirit. Ive spoken to counselor but i dont have acess any more. I just feel so isolated alone an need social connection. Tired of fighting the anxiety of it all. Meds dont work for me i am doing meditations now..so hpoefully that makes a postitive impact. Its a whole of darkness..an i jus want out!

I have been feeling like this ever since my early 20s am now mid 30s and my worst is at work I fear that everyone hates me or talks about me or feels sorry, I fear any time we all have to go in for a meeting or even a lunch can make my anxiety get so bad, I'm coming to realise it may of been from when I was younger and got a little bullied at school was nothing major but I am a sensitive shy person, everyone always comments how gorgeous I am and positive but deep down I have so much doubt and lack of confidence, I also know our minds are such a powerful thing and we are only human , we need to look after ourselves and exercise meditate, eat healthy n hang out with people who make u feel good don't be around toxic people, stay positive friends and let's not let this fear of ours take over our lives, all the best x

Im only about 14 years old and i have severe anxiety issues and every time i speak to someone i feel they just dont want to speak to me because they hate me. I really hope it gets btter soon because im not sure i can live with it.

I have extreme anxiety I take medication but still freak out in the stores. Fear comes over me and all I want to do is escape. I dread crowed and feel Ill get lost. My heart beats overtime. I also have paranoid schizophrenia. The medicine I'm taking for that is helping, But what to do about the anxiety I don't know take four 1 mg tabs a day of klonopins which helps better than before. What to do?

We all can learn by sharing &listening to others!

Im just realizing how much anxiety has affected my life. I think everbody really hates me. They just pretend to like me. Because I feel this way so much I have isolated myself. I dont have any friends that hang out with or talk to on a regular basis. If I do start to talk to someone I tend to find reasons to stop. Im so lonely but to the few people Im around all the time I pretend to be ok. Im tired of pretending I tired of acting stong when Im really falling apart and want to runaway.

This is so me. Except I won't keep calling or texting people. I will shut down and not speak to anyone because I am scared that maybe my paranoid thoughts are true. I own my own business and this gets me "in trouble" all of the time.

I never realized that this was an anxiety thing for me, just kinda assumed that it was being lonely except for a couple of friends, and maybe trust issues or something. I don't think that I expirience as much of as other people commenting, but I often feel like when I don't talk to people for a little while,(even just a couple days sometimes) we're just growing apart and I have no control over it, and it just scares the heck out of me.