Mental Illness, Stereotypes And Stigma

What a lovely description of stigma and how our neighbors might react to the idea. Beautifully written and sadly true.
Thank you!

hi natalie,
i really appreciate your effort for doing such a commendable work.we should not be hesitant in discussing such things as if when change is needed we should always start at our end.....
thanks

Really enjoyed your comparison of collecting signatures/donations for the 2 causes you mentioned and how each one would be received. This would be something worth trying out, just for confirmation. I'm glad there's more than ever before discussion around MI, but we've a long way to go still and I look forward to the day where the compassion and understanding afforded animals or other causes, is given willingly for mental health.

I totally relate to your comments about the stigma of mental illness. I have not been personally diagnosed except for three major episodes of depression over a forty year period. However I raised five children who each had some form of mental illness. One is bipolar, the second depressive and anxiety prone, third has ADHD, fourth was a late bloomer but also extremely intelligent in Math & Computers and a perfectionist. The fifth has asperger's syndrome, but none were diagnosed until they were adults partly because we just didn't know anything about mental illness at the time and partly because of my own fears that if we had a mental illness we were "crazy" and would be put away in an insane asylum for the rest of our lives. My oldest daughter was a happy socially adept very good student until her 11th birthday and soon after that became quiet, morose, sulking and refusing to communicate with us. The school counselor wanted to put her in a mental institution for a "child Study" when she was in middle school. I was so frightened that they would not let her back out that I refused to let her participate. Instead I quit my job and stayed home to give her constant supervision, She went to school, came home and if she went anywhere after school I made sure she had someone with her. I questioned and warned all her friends that if she got into any trouble I would hold them responsible. Usually I sent one of her sisters with her, even on dates. She grew up, got a job, lived with a girlfriend for a couple of years on their own and eventually married and had a daughter. Then she divorced the first husband and remarried. Her second daughter was absolutely textbook Asperger's. Came out screaming and screamed for the first three or four years of her life. Hand flapping, Tippy toed, Patterning, lining up toys etc. and having fits if anyone tried anything "new" or changed any of her things in any way. Once she got to an age she could make her needs understood she was easier to get along with but we still did not know what was wrong with her...just tried to keep her happy. When she was 13 a school counselor had just learned about Asperger's and finally she was diagnosed. Her school was very cooperative. Anything to get her to stop throwing fits in school. My daughter had to talk her through every possible situation BEFORE it happened. Once she knew what to expect it was okay unless, Heaven Forbid, any change in the routine. My granddaughters doctors noticed my daughters behavior during visits and suggested she see another Psychologist and my daughter was diagnosed as Bipolar at age 35. She has been on various medications and finally found one that works well but costs them $800.00 a month and is not covered by insurance. The second daughter has lived a quiet life, being so anxious about new situations made her pretty much a homebody, but at age 40 when she was beginning to go into menopause she suddenly seemed to lose her anxieties and fears and started to join groups, take dance and exercise classes, volunteered at a local preschool. Who knows why but we are happy for her. The third daughter with ADHD. We always just made allowances and restricted her movements in places she might get into trouble. We taught her to use her excess energies by working or exercising. She still hardly ever sleeps, constantly in motion, but has married and raised three children and now four grandchildren. Two of her children also have ADHD and one is married to a Bipolar. The third tends to depression at times but lives a reasonably normal life (What is NORMAL?) One of her grandchildren is ADD and another unusually adept at puzzles and counting although he is only 2 years old. The fourth child my oldest son didn't walk or speak until he was about 18 months old. But when he did learn to speak spoke in sentences not just words. Never babbled baby talk. He also could count money as fast as you could put a coin in his hand between ages 2 & 3. And eventually would tell you how much candy he could buy with that amount. He had a little trouble reading at first but excelled in all the Math subjects in school and when he found computers in his sophomore year in high school, he was "in love". He was a straight A student and earned a full scholarship his first year of college, but the college didn't have good computer courses so he switched to another for the rest of his education. He graduated with a double major of Math and Computer Engineer. Again with a 4.0 average and pretty much had his pick of jobs in the computer field which was just getting started at the time. All this was with another handicap, He was nearly deaf from about age 5. He never had special needs classes since he read lips and except for talking to teachers about placing him where he could read their lips he didn't have any special consideration in school. In College he finally was fitted with a hearing aid but turned it off as the noise distracted him most of the time. My fifth child has Asperger's. We didn't realize it until my granddaughter was diagnosed and we didn't raise him as a person with disabilities. Just kept him happy and luckily he was never a behavior problem. His daughter was diagnosed with Asperger's at about 3 years old. Now we know how to deal with it she is now in high school and no longer needs special classes. She is learning to read peoples faces and body language and recognizes jokes and other non-literal remarks for what they are. She still sometimes blurts out phrases that seem quirky to others but has learned to keep them to herself most of the time.
Thank you for listening to my long story.