How to Build Self-Esteem Through Self-Identity

January 19, 2022 Will Redmond

So, we're on a journey to build better self-esteem, and you want to know where to begin. Starting out may seem like a daunting task. The best way to tackle it is by breaking it down into smaller steps. Today, we'll cover step one: identifying what makes you, you.

Self-Identity Boosts Self-Esteem

I asked myself, "Who is Will Redmond?"

The answer needed some refinement.

In my last post, I detailed what brought me to this point and how I overcame it. I had known for a very long time that I did not love myself. I was able to list 1000 negative reflections and willfully ignored the positives. Through meticulous self-evaluation, I realized I had lost my own identity and was instead imitating the identity of those around me. It's impossible to build up your self-esteem if you don't first identify who you are.

My solution was to identify who Will Redmond really was. Some of the things that make me who I am include acting, education, history, Legos, snowboarding, writing, sporting events, electronic dance music shows, and the music and growth of Justin Bieber. All those things make me happy, and that's okay. I'm trying to say that whatever combination of influences define you matter, even if they seem random or defy social norms. Once I realized these things, I had taken the first step on the journey to better self-esteem.

Action Steps for Self-Identity

Let's talk about what you can do to identify who you are. We're not going to look at any negative aspects for this step; instead, we're going to highlight the positives. Consider a time in the last six months when you felt genuinely happy. This could be something as simple as learning a new dance routine or a beautiful moment in your most recent streaming binge. Whatever it is, take some time to consider what made it special.

Repeat this process a couple of times. I recommend writing down all the little things that bring you happiness until you've got a good list going. You can then go back and read through it to get a pretty good picture of what makes you happy. Congratulations, you just took the first step on your journey to healthy self-esteem.

Working Together Helps Build Self-Esteem

Sharing your progress is really helpful in your journey to self-identity and better self-esteem. This could be with a family member, a close friend, or even me. If you feel comfortable doing so, I'd love to hear about one thing that makes you happy. In return, I'll share the same with you. Feel free to do so in the comment section. In my next post, we'll use these happy moments to show you how to love yourself. Be sure to tune in.

APA Reference
Redmond, W. (2022, January 19). How to Build Self-Esteem Through Self-Identity, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 20 from

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Lucas Fox
January, 19 2022 at 12:23 pm

This is actually something I never considered before even though it seems so simple! Some things that make me happy are: cleaning, Harry Potter, bonsai trees, dogs, music, and filming music videos.

January, 20 2022 at 12:56 pm

Cleaning is so therapeutic - and something I'd like to be better at. I never realized how big the bonsai tree industry is - there are conventions and everything. Maybe something worth looking into? Music brings me a ton of happiness too - and we should never apologize for our favorite tunes!

Cody Ames
January, 19 2022 at 1:32 pm

Hey big shot!
Let’s talk about you coming to talk to my pe class. ?
Love ya buddy

January, 20 2022 at 12:53 pm

Absolutely! Starting a dialogue with the children of today's generation is super important. They're facing pressures that most of us didn't grow up with. I'd love to help any way I can!

Charles Gardner
January, 20 2022 at 8:25 am

I love this man. You’re hitting on a lot of key points I feel like many people can relate to. Thank you for sharing the positivity and the steps that you took to find happiness. You are a great writer and an inspiration to many. Keep up the good work brother ?

January, 20 2022 at 12:52 pm

Thank you man! It's important to keep the conversation flowing and reach out to others when we're struggling. The power of positivity is real!

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