Do You Leave a Bipolar Partner if They Refuse to Get Help?

Six months ago, I left my BP boyfriend of 5. years. He was emotionally cruel, he’d continually tell me to get my stuff and move out, wouldn’t talk to me for days at a time, etc.
I didn’t know he had BP until he had a manic episode on Thanksgiving and he texted me desperately. He wouldn’t answer his door so I went to his ex-wife’s house. She told me that he was urinating “globs” of negative energy, was riding a comet, had met god, etc. She said the reason their marriage ended was because of another manic event. He was diagnosed as BP then but rejected the diagnosis. We uncovered a lot of lies he had told and negative behavior. I visited his estranged brother, who said he is distant from his brother because of the untreated BP and narcissistic personality disorder. Both his ex-wife & brother’s stories made everything make sense. He blamed me for everything and now that burden has been lifted from me.
After his manic episode and desperate texts on Thanksgiving, I asked to let me know if he was ok. He is still delusional and thinks it was a spiritual Kundalini awakening. He told me that I was his best friend, apologized for treating me poorly, etc. (intermingled with all the crazy talk). We texted a little through the week and the conversation ended with him saying to me “seriously, there’s something seriously wrong with you”.
I wished him luck and told him to get help before he loses his daughter.
I’m happy I left, angry with myself for putting up with him for as long as I did, and am reflecting on the pain and ultimately the joy and hope I have felt since leaving 6 months ago.

I'm about to leave my husband. Manic episodes are so hard. He won't take meds. I have to move on.

Are their any support groups for the care-taker spouse - the stories are difficult and I sorry for what we go through when our spouse or partner go through their mental illness. I've tried to start a group for spouses & partners of spouses (partners) who have MI, it not easy. let me know it you know of any.

I think my partner of 7 years has bipolar or schizoaffective disorder. We have two little boys together. Throughout the 7 years he has left and then come back. There is a pattern with and it seems to happen around the same time everytime he leaves. He blames me for everything but then when he wants to come back he'll beg and cry make promises tell me that me and his children are his world and so on. He has accused me of all sorts and called me all the names under the sun. He hallucinates sees things that aren't there and when he closes his eyes he hears voices and sees people coming towards him. He has a gambling problem also. Quite recently he had a psychotic blackout where he became violent and smashed up my house, the first time in his life he has ever been arrested, he could not remember a single thing about this episode, he finally realised that he wasn't well mentally and decided to go to the doctors but would not let me go with him, I don't think he was completely honest with the doctor as he was only given anti depressants and said he's suffering from depression and anxiety, I know that it's mire than just that from the pattern and the mood changes hallucinations etc. Well after we got through the awful episode in which he begged and pleaded with me not to leave him that he was going to stop it all and that he knows he's mentally ill he promised he would always take his anti depressants, we got back on track and we were the happiest we had ever been we were making exciting plans for the future we were close and in love again felt like I got real him back. Four months later(didn't last that long) he decided he didn't need his pills anymore and that he's well mentally so he just came right off them never even discussed it with me just nothing. For the past 3 months it's like living with a stranger he would hardly speak to me let alone make eye contact would just sit on his phone constantly, no affection or anything from him just nothing, a few days here and there he's been OK but that's about it. A few days ago he wasn't right at all and sent me a text saying he is going to find somewhere else to live. He keeps going on about a text message I sent a friend at work about 6 years ago asking about this guy she liked so he has got it into his head that's never left it that I was the one interested in this guy even though I've told him till I'm blue in the face that I'd never be interested in anyone else after his blackout he accepted that and knows I wasn't interest but now he is saying that he never said that at all, he has accused me of the most ludicrous things its unbelievable and ice stood by him through everything, he has cheated on me been on date sites porn sites had phone numbers messaged them on social media sites the list goes on. Right now he us in complete denial and that there is absolutely nothing wrong with him but he doesn't even look well right now and sometimes he will have that darkness in his eyes. There is schizophrenia and bipolar on both sides of his family. It's like he's afraid to be diagnosed, his job doesn't seem to be affected and he tries to keep active by climbing mountains or cycling round places when he can and I think he thinks if he does that then he'll be fine. At a point he did think he had bipolar as I eventually got him to read up on it but now he thinks there's absolutely nothing wrong with him but myself and his family can see he's not well, he is also good at putting front on acting like he's fine to people like his friends and Co workers. I just don't know what to do i know I have no choice but to let him leave as I can't stop him but I just know that eventually he will want to come back

My case is very similar to Frizabelle.. my wife of 7 years has been diagnosed with BP and she refuses to take medication, she even refuses to acknowledge that she is not well.... her parents are afraid of the stigma so they are not helpful at all, which makes her more suspicious about my intentions... My wife's BP manifests itself in the form of morbid jealousy. She has accused me of the most awful things from having an affair with a co-workers (i don't even have her phone number) to spying on her by putting cameras all over the house, tracking her phone and car! this has been going on for 3 months since we discovered that she was BP.. She left me because she was so convinced of all these horrible things but then had a "wake-up" and came home telling me that she only feels safe around me and she only trusts me... i suggested that we go to the doctor and we did. ..He put her on antipsychotics and antidepressants.. she used them for less than 2 weeks (i dont think she was taking the meds every day) and all of a sudden she stopped and started accusing me again of all these terrible things... she went to the doctor alone but i dont think she was honest about the symptoms.. she ended up leaving me again..when i asked her why she refused the medication, her reply is always "there's nothing wrong with me" and that the side effects of the meds were too much to handle! I have a step daughter of 8 years old whom I absolutely adore, I can't imagine myself living away from her…I can see how this is all affecting her and I hate the fact that there is nothing I can do.. the poor girl thinks im a monster for making her mum cry all the time… I don’t know what to do anymore, I don’t know if I should get a divorce but then I will never forgive myself for abandoning her while knowing very well that im the only one who can help her (if she lets me)..I know that my daughter will suffer if left alone with my wife, my job and health are suffering tremendously and I was almost fired a couple of weeks ago … I’ve reached the end of the line and I really don’t know what to do anymore!

I've been married 9 years 2nd marriage. I love her and even adopted her two teenage kids that live with us. However, my wife started showing red flags our first year of marriage. I have to walk on eggshells everyday on my house. If she gets upset she doesn't speak to me for 2-3 days. She always does the silent treatment. She is very jealous. I can't even have a facebook account because she is so jealous. If I even say one thing about her kids to help out around the house its world war 3. She is not nice to my kids and complains about them everyday. I love her and we do have fun together most of the time, but I feel like I am mentally abused with all the silent treatments. I've talked to her a million times about it and she refuses to get any help. She turns it around on me or my kids on every situation. I'm in my mind 40s and sick of the mental abuse and silent treatments. I want to divorce her sometimes, but I don't want to hurt anyone or make things worse. We have a house and business together and I already pay child support to my last wife. I can't afford to pay child support to two ex wives. I guess I'm stuck.

Hi, this morning I thought I was the only one living this awful situation of having a bipolar husband . I have been married for 22 years. My husband was diagnosed with depressive bipolar disorder in 2014 when he tried to commit suicided. In 2016 I was diagnosed with cancer and that was the end of our marriage, he cheated on me , placed his picture on online dating sites , told me he was not in love with me , put several tattoos on his body , and the last thing he tried to put his son in jail after my son tried to stop him one night when my husband out of no where came home after being drinking and started throwing my clothes out in the street. Then I realized that I could not take the mental abuse anymore and that I needed to remove my kids and my self out of that situation. He is gone now , I filed for divorce , but I still love him and I am struggling with these feelings .

My husband had not been diagnosed but himself, I, and my psychologist all do believe that is what is causing his mania and depression.
When I met my husband, I was young and into drinking. He was also an alcoholic. We got along very well. After a couple of years living together, I noticed that his drinking was very bad, and he behaved badly. He would disappear at night, he would have accidents, and I noticed that he was basically not within reality, and at other times, he was deeply depressed and inconsolable. I always thought this behavior was the alcohol, and the fact that he never worked on closure with his mothers sudden and tragic death. I thought that maybe he just needed to quit drinking and deal with his past. I was completely wrong.
I had quit drinking as I got older and needed to be the responsible adult for our blended family. I became a full time student, work full time, and we also had a child of our own. He continued to drink heavily. I finally became tired of it and packed up my bags and told him I wanted a divorce. He quit drinking for 8 months. During that time, I realized that it was not the alcohol. He went into two different severe manic episodes that involved staying up very late with a lot of conspiracy theories. Suddenly he became “enlightened” and is somehow “superior” to the rest of us. He seems to feel that it’s his duty to enlighten the family and that he knows best. He wants to sell our house and buy a plot of land in the forest and live in a camper. He’s very upset that I don’t want to join him. Now, he’s in a deep depression. He says that doctors are there to keep people sick and that he can cure himself. Today, he is incredibly irritable and continues to yell at our 5 year old. I have to go to work this evening and don’t want my daughter staying with him while I work, so I am taking her to my mothers.
A little over a month ago, I essentially had a “mental breakdown”. I do have high anxiety due to my busy schedule, and come to find out, my therapist thinks that my husbands illness is a big factor in why I’ve snapped. I started having panic attacks, I had depression with it, and I’m recovering very carefully.
He became strong for me during this time and used it as a time to preach enlightenment to me and became upset that I didn’t want to use his meditations (I meditate regularly, but I don’t feel the need to preach about it or two sway anyone).
Now that I’m feeling more and more like my normal self, sometimes I feel like he’s trying to drag me back down. He’s getting worse. It’s like he wants the “upper hand” in marriage, and when I was breaking, he was his happiest.
Is this common? Will someone with bipolar strive to bring people down with them? I know it’s not him doing it, but I’m exhausted and need to be healthy.
Is it also common for the partner of someone suffering from bipolar to become so distraught that he or she needs to start seeing a therapist? I feel like this is ruining my life, and that his illness is keeping me from doing the things that I want to do in life. He refuses help. He says that help us a good idea but he just won’t go. He thinks he can cure himself on his own through his weird meditations, YouTube videos, and diet. Those things work a little, bit more needs to be done. I’ve suggested he see my naturopath doctor. She says that she has supplements that can balance him out. He says that’s a good idea, but he’s not making any strides himself, and the state that I reside in makes it very difficult if not impossible, for me to have him admitted.