Leaving Abuse Isn't So Cut and Dry

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Leaving Abuse Isn't So Cut and Dry

"Why don't you just leave?!" That's the solution many offer up to those in abusive relationships. There are several reasons why women (and men) don't leave abusive relationships so easily.

  1. They hope the abuse will stop.
  2. Abuse is familiar. Being out there alone is unfamiliar.
  3. A loss of self. A loss of self-confidence.
  4. Guilt over breaking up the family structure.
  5. Threats by the abuser.
  6. Religious beliefs.

From the list above, you can see why leaving an abusive relationship can be a scary thing; especially considering the abuse victim is going from the known (even though it's bad) to the unknown (which could be worse).

That's why I think this two-part series from Kelly Holly, author of Verbal Abuse in Relationships blog, is so important. It provides insight to others in abusive relationships from someone who has been there.

Getting out in a safe and constructive manner can be difficult for some, unless they have support. That's the key – women and men who are being abused will need assistance, understanding and guidance in order to find freedom safely and recover.

Abusive Relationships, Domestic Violence Information

Mental Health Experiences

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Most Popular HealthyPlace Articles Shared by Facebook Fans

Here are the top 3 mental health articles HealthyPlace Facebook fans are recommending you read:

  1. For Loved Ones, After a Suicide Attempt
  2. Breathing Exercises to Reduce Stress
  3. Bullying in the Workplace

If you're not already, I hope you'll join us/like us on Facebook too. There are a lot of wonderful, supportive people there.

From HealthyPlace Mental Health Blogs

Your comments and observations are welcomed.

Feel free to share your thoughts and comments at the bottom of any blog post. And visit the mental health blogs homepage for the latest posts.

Your Thoughts: From the HealthyPlace Forums and Chat

On our Bipolar Forum, horace56 says "I find myself losing it over the stupidest things - like this morning, dropping a new meat thermometer on the tiled floor. I exploded." Do you have any thoughts to share about this rage issue?" Sign into the forums and share your thoughts and comments.

Join us on the HealthyPlace Mental Health Forums and Chat

You must be a registered HealthyPlace member. If you aren't already, it's free and takes less than 30 seconds. Just click the "register button" at the top of the page.

At the bottom of the forums page, you'll notice a chat bar (similar to facebook). You can chat with any registered member on the forums site.

We hope you'll be a frequent participant and share our support link with others who may benefit.

Publicly Living with a Mental Illness on HealthyPlace TV

Most people would think twice before going onto the Internet and publicly proclaiming they have a mental illness. But our guest, Youtube vlogger Dani Z., diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, wants to break the stigma of mental illness. Watch this week's HealthyPlace Mental Health TV Show. (Publicly Living with a Mental Illness - TV Show blog)

Other Recent HPTV Shows

Coming in August on the HealthyPlace Mental Health TV Show

  • Surviving a Long-Lasting Battle with Depression
  • I Didn't Recognize the Symptoms of Depression in Myself
  • Relationships and Mental Illness

If you would like to be a guest on the show or share your personal story in writing or via video, please write us at: producer AT

For all previous HealthyPlace Mental Health TV archived shows.

Food Addiction: The Link to Childhood Obesity on HealthyPlace Radio

Our guest maintains food addiction is one of the leading causes behind childhood obesity. Dr. Robert Pretlow is founder and director of, an online weight loss system for teens and preteens used by clinics, hospitals and other institutions. Dr. Pretlow addresses the problem and provides solutions on this edition of the HealthyPlace Mental Health Radio Show. Listen to Food Addiction: The Link to Childhood Obesity.

Other Recent HealthyPlace Radio Shows

  • From Life of the Party to Get a Life. Stephanie used to enjoy life. There were lunches and parties with friends. Going shopping. Doing fun things. Then she was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. And her social life came to a rip roaring halt. We discuss why the big change and what her life is like today
  • Living with Adult ADHD. Kelly Babcock, author of the blog "Tao of Taylor," spent a good portion of his life trying to figure out why things weren't going right. For him, receiving a diagnosis of Adult ADHD was a life-changing event.

The Negative Child

What do you do when your child has a negative outlook on most everything? Parenting coach, Dr. Steven Richfield, has suggestions on how to help the negative child.

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APA Reference
Staff, H. (2011, July 29). Leaving Abuse Isn't So Cut and Dry, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 20 from

Last Updated: September 4, 2014

Medically reviewed by Harry Croft, MD

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