Fear, You Are Not Welcome Here! (video)

January 30, 2013 Jodi Lobozzo Aman, LCSW-R

A few weeks ago, I invited people to write a goodbye letter to fear using my own letter as an example.

At the end I challenged readers:

Write a goodbye letter to fear.

Start with, “Dear Fear,” and let ‘em have it. Name your fears, tell what you have sacrificed, name its tricks and tactics, list your skills and knowledges, tell it what you’d rather do with your life if it no longer held you back. And then hang it in a place where you can see it, so you can read it everyday until the fear is gone.

Readers, what would you like to say? Dear Fear…..

Here are some of the responses. Watch me read a powerful goodbye letter to fear in this video.

Here is the transcript of that letter.

Dear (or Not So Dear) Fear and Anxiety,

You are both the same to me as is Guilt! You have run my life for way to long and I have had enough! I will no longer allow you to set my path in life. You have taken me down into the bowels of Hell and I refuse to live there any longer. You have made me feel worthless, incapable, stupid, un-lovable and I will not tolerate it. You have taken my self-esteem and squashed it. You have made me believe that it is all my fault and don’t deserve anything better but I have discovered that you are a Liar! Everything you put into my head is a lie!

Sometimes you whisper and sometimes you scream but they are all lies about me and my place in this universe. I cannot and will not have a relationship with a Liar, someone who sucks the very life out of me! I have been a coward in your presence. I have let you do with me what you wish. You have hurt me thousands of times and I still allow you in my life. You have kept me down telling me not to try anything new because I will fail. Telling me it’s too late for me to grow, but grow I will!

Telling me I am incapable of love! Incapable of handling challenging experiences! Telling me I cannot heal or heal others! Telling me that I am nothing without you!




I am everything without you!

Since I’ve discovered exactly what you are I no longer want you in my life! So Go Away!


If you insist on returning, each and every time I will send you packing! You cannot be a part of my life anymore. You have done nothing but hurt me over and over again. I will not accept that from anyone, least of all you! No matter what you say, no matter how deep inside me you get I know that I am a worthy, capable and lovable person. And I know that as long as I keep sending you away the less power you will have over me until you wither away to the nothingness that you really are! I refuse to believe your accusations or tolerate your disrespect!

It’s Done! No matter what you do, it’s Done.

You are no longer welcome in my life!

With all the strength of Truth and Love on my side,


You try it. I promise it feels amazing when you are done. Copy your fear letter in the comment section, to it can inspire all of us. Don't work to hard, just sit down and let the words flow. They need not be perfect. Just empty the weight in your hearts and minds.

By Jodi Lobozzo Aman

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APA Reference
Lobozzo, J. (2013, January 30). Fear, You Are Not Welcome Here! (video), HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 13 from

Author: Jodi Lobozzo Aman, LCSW-R

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