From the book Self-Help Stuff That Works
by Adam Khan:
|When bad happens:
Assume it won't last long, look to see what isn't affected, and don't indulge in self-blame.
|When good happens:
Consider its effects permanent, see how much of your life is affected, and look to see how much you can take credit for.
|Become more optimistic.
|Talk to yourself in a confident, reassuring, positive way.
|Do some honest good in the world.
|Come up with alternative ways of interpreting an event.
|Change the details of your thoughts.
|Tell yourself you can handle it.
|No matter what happens, assume it's good.
|Keep persisting until the change you want happens.
|Describe upsetting situations to yourself in emotionally neutral words
|Control what is your responsibility.
|Direct your thoughts to what you appreciate and say it.
|If your own greed is making you discontent, quit cramming so much into your days.
|Direct your mind by asking yourself a good question.
|When something bad happens, say to yourself, That's good!
|Relieve negative feelings by turning your attention to purposeful activities.
|Let go of an idea that causes you needless stress.
|Find a way to turn your problems into an advantage.
|Interpret events in a way that helps you.
|Wonder about what good things might be happening.
|Be skeptical of your feelings of certainty.
|When you hit a setback in life:
Assume the problem or its consequences won't last long, see how you can prevent the same problem in the future, and don't jump to the conclusion that this setback will ruin everything.
|To improve your self-esteem:
Gain more ability, become more honest, do something worthwhile, and acknowledge people.
|Make up your mind you will succeed.
Strengthen your integrity, get better control of your time, become more optimistic, and practice good human relations.
Choose only one principle to practice for now. Pick one that excites you to contemplate. Then write it on a card and carry it with you for a week or so, actively trying to practice that principle at every opportunity. Then stop practicing it consciously. It will now be a skill you'll have more available to you when you need it.
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Staff, H. (2008, November 27). Attitude Principles, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, February 22 from https://www.healthyplace.com/self-help/self-help-stuff-that-works/self-help-for-attitude-problems