The Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Reading List

The following books are recommended by Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board posters. Books mentioned most frequently are listed at the top under "Popular." Click on the title to view the corresponding Amazon entry.


Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown, Ed.D.

Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You by Patricia Evans

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss what Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen

The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self by Alice Miller

Loving the Self-Absorbed: How to Create a More Satisfying Relationship with a Narcissistic Partner by Nina Brown, Ed.D.

The Narcissistic Family : Diagnosis and Treatment by Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert M. Pressman

Stop Walking on Eggshells; Coping When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul Mason and Randy Kreger

Toxic Parents : Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life By Susan Forward, Ph.D.

Trapped in the Mirror by Elan Golomb, Ph.D.

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond by Patricia Evans


Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

Why Is It Always About You? : The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss

Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood


Other Recommended Books:

Adult Children of Alcoholics : Expanded Edition by Janet Woititz, Ed.D.

The Artist's Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron

Banished Knowledge : Facing Childhood Injuries by Alice Miller

Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie

Coping With Criticism by Jamie Buckingham

Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward, Ph.D.

Emotional Unavailability : Recognizing It, Understanding It, and Avoiding Its Trap by Bryn Collins, M.A., L.P.

Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting: The Astonishing Power of Feelings by Lynn Grabhorn

Forgive for Good by Dr. Fred Luskin

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

A General Theory of Love by Fari Amini, Richard Lannon, and Thomas Lewis

The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense 2nd Edition by Suzette Haden Elgin, Ph.D.

Getting the Love You Want : A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.

The Gift of Therapy : An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients by Irvin Yalom

The Golden Ghetto: The Psychology of Affluence by Jessie O'Neill

Healing the Child Within by Charles Whitfield, M.D.

Homecoming : Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw

If You Had Controlling Parents : How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World by Dan Neuharth, Ph.D.

I'm Dying to Take Care of You: Nurses and Codependence: Breaking the Cycles by Candace Snow

I Say a Prayer for Me: One Woman's Life of Faith and Triumph by Stanice Anderson

Journal to the Self by Kathleen Adams

Love's Executioner : & Other Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom

Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited by Samuel Vaknin, Ph.D.

Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

Man the Manipulator by Everett Shostrom

The Man With The Beautiful Voice: And More Stories from the Other Side of the Couch by Lillian Rubin, Ph.D.

Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them : When Loving Hurts And You Don't Know Why by Susan Forward, Ph.D. and Joan Torres

Mindfulness in Plain English by Henepola Gunaratana

Mind Wide Open : Your Brain and the Neuroscience of Everyday Life by Stephen Johnson

The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple: A Psychoanalytic Perspective On Marital Treatment by Joan Lachkar, Ph.D.

Nasty People by Jay Carter, Psy.D.

Peace Is Every Step : The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life by Thich Nhat Hanh

People of the Lie by M.Scott Peck

The Peter Pan Syndrome: Men Who Have Never Grown Up by Dan Kiley

Power vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior by David Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.

Practical Dreaming: Awakening the Power of Dreams in Your Life by Lillie Weiss, Ph.D.


Psychic Vampires: Protection from Energy Predators & Parasites by Joe Slate, Ph.D.

The Psychology of Stalking : Clinical and Forensic Perspectives edited by J. Reid Meloy

The Purpose-Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? By Rick Warren

7 Paths to God: The Ways of the Mystic by Joan Borysenko

The Solo Partner: Repairing Your Relationship on Your Own by Phil Deluca

Stop Being Manipulated: How to Neutralize the Bullies, Bosses, and Brutes in Your Life by George Green, Ph.D. and Carolyn Cotter, MBA

Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem by Kimberlee Roth and Freda Friedman, Ph.D., LCSW

The Tender Heart: Conquering Your Insecurity by Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum

Too Nice for Your Own Good : How to Stop Making 9 Self-Sabotaging Mistakes by Duke Robinson

The Vein of Gold: The Kingdom of Sound by Julia Cameron

What Should I Do with My Life? : The True Story of People Who Answered the Ultimate Question by Po Bronson

When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold Kushner

When Good Kids Do Bad Things: A Survival Guide for Parents of Teenagers by Katherine Gordy Levine and Julie Rubenstein

When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends : Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life by Victoria Secunda

Where Freedom Begins: The Process of Personal Change by Marion Pastor, Ph.D.

Why People Don't Heal and How They Can by Caroline Myss, Ph.D.

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family by Eleanor Payson, M.S.W.

Writing as a Way of Healing : How Telling Our Stories Transforms Our Lives by Louise DeSalvo

Writing the Mind Alive : The Proprioceptive Method for Finding Your Authentic Voice by Linda Trichter Metcalf and Tobin Simon

You Can't Say That to Me: Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse -- An 8-Step Program by Susan Haden Elgin, Ph.D.

You Know He's a Keeper, You Know He's a Loser: Happy Endings and Horror Stories from Real-Life Relationships by Linda Lee Small and Norine Dworkin

About the author: Dr. Grossman is a clinical psychologist and author of the Voicelessness and Emotional Survival web site.

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Staff, H. (2008, October 8). The Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Reading List, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 21 from

Last Updated: July 14, 2016

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