Malignant Self Love
- Narcissism Revisited
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Narcissism - The
Pathology
Narcissists
and their Emotions
Narcissists and their Supply Sources
Narcissists in
Therapy
How to Cope
with a Narcissist?
Narcissists and
Women
The Narcissist
and His Mate /Colleague / Partner / Spouse / Family
Narcissists in
the Workplace
Narcissism and Historical Figures
Co-Morbidity (Narcissism with
other Mental Health Disorders) and Dual Diagnosis
(Narcissism with Substance Abuse)
Our Narcissistic
Culture
Sam Vaknin, NPD
My
Journals (First
Published on Suite101)
Narcissism -
The Pathology
Archive01 - Excerpt
5: Epidemiology of Narcissism
Archive01 -
Excerpt 13: Self Defeating and Self Destructive Behaviors
Archive01 - Excerpt
16: The vocations of Narcissists
Archive01 - Excerpt 17:
Lazy Narcissists
Archive02 - Excerpt
3: Narcissistic Identity
Archive02 - Excerpt
4: Narcissists, Right and Wrong
Archive02 -
Excerpt 6: Narcissists have Tables of Emotional
Resonance
Archive02 - Excerpt
7: Contradictory Behaviors of Narcissists
Archive02 - Excerpt
10: Narcissists and Manipulation
Archive03 - Excerpt
1: Narcissists and Chemical Imbalances
Archive03 - Excerpt
7: NPD and Dual Diagnoses
Archive03 -
Excerpt 9: From "Narcissism and the Search for
Interiority" by Donald Kalsched
Archive04 - Excerpt
3: Narcissistic Self Absorption
Archive05 - Excerpt
3: Narcissism as Self-definition
Archive05 - Excerpt
6: Devaluing the Significant Other
Archive05 - Excerpt
7: Should the Narcissist be Held Accountable for his
Actions?
Archive05
- Excerpt 13: The Internalized Voice of the Narcissist
Archive06 - Excerpt
1: Narcissists and Ego Dystony
Archive06 - Excerpt
8: Degrees of Narcissism
Archive06 - Excerpt
14: Unified Dysfunction Theory
Archive07
- Excerpt 4: The Enemy
Archive07 - Excerpt
6: Narcissists as Drug Addicts
Archive07 -
Excerpt 7: Alexander Lowen
Archive07 - Excerpt 15:
Narcissistic Myths
Archive08 - Excerpt
1: Do Infants Trigger their Own Abuse?
Archive08
- Excerpt 4: Superego
Archive08 - Excerpt
7: The Human Machine
Archive08 - Excerpt 8:
Conscience
Archive09 -
Excerpt 3: Inverted Narcissism
Archive10 -
Excerpt 1: The Exposure of the Narcissist
Archive10 - Excerpt
3: Narcissists, Disagreements and Criticism
Archive10 - Excerpt
4: Unresolved Conflicts
Archive10 - Excerpt
10: Fortress Narcissism
Archive10 - Excerpt 11:
Inverted Narcissists
Archive11 -
Excerpt 1: The Productive Narcissist
Archive11 - Excerpt
8: Self Confidence and Real Achievements
Archive12 -
Excerpt 1: The Narcissist and Total Institutions
Archive12 -
Excerpt 3: The Denial Mechanisms of the Narcissist
Archive12 -
Excerpt 5: Traumas and Personality Disorders
Archive12 -
Excerpt 8: The Narcissist - a Gift to Humanity
Archive12 - Excerpt 10:
Forms of Aggression
Archive12 - Excerpt 11:
Narcissist the Sadist
Archive12 -
Excerpt 12: Somatic versus Cerebral Narcissists
Archive13 -
Excerpt 1: The Formation of a Narcissist as a Reaction to His Narcissistic
Parents
Archive13
- Excerpt 3: Narcissism - The Individualist's Reaction
Archive14 -
Excerpt 1: Abusive Parents
Archive14 -
Excerpt 3: Narcissistic Regression versus NPD
Archive14 - Excerpt 8:
Narcissism and Genetics
Archive15 -
Excerpt 1: Money and the Narcissist
Archive15 - Excerpt 6: Sexual
Abuse
Archive17 -
Excerpt 4: Narcissism as an Adaptive Strategy
Archive17 - Excerpt 5:
The Zombie Narcissist
Archive18 - Excerpt 2:
Narcissism is an Addiction
Archive18
- Excerpt 4: Emotional Investment in Pathology and Healing
Archive18 -
Excerpt 5: The Emergence of the True Self
Archive18 - Excerpt
6: Bonding with "God"
Archive18 -
Excerpt 7: Group Sex as seen by the Narcissist
Archive18 - Excerpt 8: Overt
and Covert
Archive19 - Excerpt 2: Hating
Love
Archive19
- Excerpt 5: Cognitive Distortions and the Narcissist
Archive19 -
Excerpt 6: Sexual versus other forms of Abuse
Archive19 -
Excerpt 7: The Narcissist and his Dead Ones
Archive20 -
Excerpt 1: There is no Goal
Archive20 - Excerpt
2: Inverted Narcissists Once More
Archive20 - Excerpt 3: Losing
Control
Archive20
- Excerpt 10: The Pleasures of the Somatic Narcissist
Archive21 -
Excerpt 1: Narcissistic Healing - through LOVE or through PAIN?
Archive21 -
Excerpt 4: Inverted Narcissists ARE Narcissists
Archive21 - Excerpt
6: Fulfilling Others' Dreams
Archive22 -
Excerpt 4: Narcissists and Control
Archive22 - Excerpt 6:
Is Narcissism Learned? Can it be Unlearned?
Archive23 -
Excerpt 2: Vindictive Narcissists
Archive23 - Excerpt 4:
The Good Enough Mother
Archive24 -
Excerpt 1: The Restrained Narcissist
Archive24 - Excerpt 9:
Narcissism
Archive24 - Excerpt 10:
Addicted
Archive24 - Excerpt 11: False
Self
Archive24 - Excerpt 12:
Worth and Grandiosity
Archive 27 -
Excerpt 1: Types of Narcissists
Archive28 - Excerpt 2: Eye
Contact
Archive28 - Excerpt 3:
Narcissism Forming
Archive28
- Excerpt 5: More about the False Self and the True Self
Archive30 - Excerpt
4: Narcissists ARE Appearances
Archive30 - Excerpt 7:
The Rational Narcissist
Archive31 - Excerpt
1: Euphoria and Dysphoria
Archive31 - Excerpt 3: On
the Move
Archive31 - Excerpt
5: N-magnets a Bad Metaphor
Archive31 - Excerpt
6: Ideas of Reference
Archive33 - Excerpt 1:
Mirror Gazing
Archive33 - Excerpt
2: More on the Grandiosity Gap
Archive33 - Excerpt
3: Self-Awareness and Healing
Archive33 - Excerpt
4: Narcissistic Vulnerability
Archive34
- Excerpt 2: When can a Classic Narcissist become an Inverted
Narcissist?
Archive34 - Excerpt
3: The Forms of Abuse
Archive34 -
Excerpt 4: The Psychopath and the Narcissist
Archive34 - Excerpt
7: Amelioration of Narcissism
Archive34 - Excerpt 8:
Inside, Outside
Archive35 -
Excerpt 2: Can Narcissists be Helped by Hypnosis?
Archive35 - Excerpt
3: Predicting the Narcissist
Archive36
- Excerpt 2: Pathological Narcissism - Under-diagnosed
Narcissists and their Emotions
Archive02 - Excerpt
1: A Letter to a Narcissist
Archive03 - Excerpt
8: Narcissists imitating Emotions
Archive04 - Excerpt
5: PDs and Self-Mourning
Archive04
- Excerpt 9: Self Pity and Grief
Archive05
- Excerpt 2: Pathological Envy
Archive05 - Excerpt
4: Narcissistic Ups and Downs
Archive05 - Excerpt
9: Narcissists put on a show regarding their
"emotions"?
Archive06 -
Excerpt 11: I am Very Sad
Archive07 - Excerpt
2: My Shame
Archive08 - Excerpt
5: Emotional Daltonism
Archive11 - Excerpt
9: Communicating Emotions
Archive11 - Excerpt
10: Possessive Jealousy
Archive13 - Excerpt
4: Somatizing Our Emotions
Archive13 - Excerpt
5: The "Love" of the Narcissist
Archive14
- Excerpt 2: Hatred and Anger
Archive16 - Excerpt
3: Narcissists Feel Deceitful
Archive17 - Excerpt 6:
Imitated Empathy
Archive17 - Excerpt
7: Narcissism and Self Loathing
Archive17 -
Excerpt 9: The Deception that is the Narcissist
Archive21 - Excerpt 3:
Being IN LOVE and LOVING
Archive21 - Excerpt
7: Not to Feel Anything
Archive23 -
Excerpt 5: Vindicating One's Self Loathing
Archive25 - Excerpt
1: Resistance is Futile?
Archive25 - Excerpt
4: Fight!
Archive25 - Excerpt
7: Falling in Love with Ourselves
Archive26 -
Excerpt 4: Aggression
Archive26 - Excerpt
5: To Live and to Grieve
Archive26 - Excerpt
6: Anticipatory Panic
Archive26 -
Excerpt 7: My Warden
Archive26 - Excerpt 8:
Love, this Bastard
Archive30 - Excerpt
1: Narcissists are Never Happy
Archive30
- Excerpt 3: Being Embarrassed
Archive30
- Excerpt 6: People are Tired
Archive32 -
Excerpt 4: Loving and Believing that You Love
Narcissists and their Supply Sources
Archive01 - Excerpt
1: Why does the narcissist devalue his source of secondary
narcissistic supply?
Archive05 -
Excerpt 8: Narcissists Getting Tired of their Sources of
Supply
Archive06 - Excerpt
12: The Narcissistic Hunt
Archive06 - Excerpt 15:
Humbling Oneself
Archive10 - Excerpt
2: Could Negative Input be Narcissistic supply?
Archive10 -
Excerpt 5: The Narcissist wants to be
liked?
Archive10 -
Excerpt 6: Old Sources of Narcissistic Supply
(NS)
Archive14 - Excerpt 5:
Deleting Past Sources of Narcissistic Supply
Archive17 -
Excerpt 8: In Pursuit of Narcissistic Supply
Archive24 -
Excerpt 3: Myself as a Source of Narcissistic Supply to Others, or: The
Existence of Others
Archive24 -
Excerpt 5: Is there an Ideal Source of Supply?
Archive24 - Excerpt
8: You are a Source of Supply
Archive29 - Excerpt 2: Human
Supply
Archive32 - Excerpt
2: From Desperation to Happiness
Archive32
- Excerpt 3: Internal Combustion and External
Propulsion
Archive32 - Excerpt
5: The Art of Un-Being
Archive32 - Excerpt
6: The Narcissist's Refrigerator
Narcissists in Therapy
Archive01
- Excerpt 2: Narcissistic Mental Health
Professionals
Archive01 - Excerpt
4: NPD Treatments - SSRI
Archive01 -
Excerpt 9: Cultural Sensitivity of Therapists
Archive01
- Excerpt 11: Psychodynamic versus Cognitive-Behavioral
Treatments
Archive01 - Excerpt
14: Narcissism not curable?
Archive03 - Excerpt
7: NPD and Dual Diagnoses
Archive04 - Excerpt
8: Psychodynamic Therapies
Archive05 -
Excerpt 10: Narcissists Facing their Diagnosis
Archive06 -
Excerpt 7: . Narcissists and Group Therapy
Archive07 - Excerpt
1: Can Narcissists be Cured?
Archive11 - Excerpt 11:
Pessimism versus Realism in the Treatment of Narcissists
Archive12
- Excerpt 4: Therapy
Archive12 -
Excerpt 6: Narcissists and Medication
Archive12 -
Excerpt 13: The Narcissist and the Therapist
Archive24 -
Excerpt 6: Destruction and Construction
Archive26 -
Excerpt 9: Going to Therapy
Archive26 -
Excerpt 10: Official Psychology and NPD
How to
Cope with a Narcissist?
Archive01 - Excerpt
3: How to Cope with a Narcissist
Archive03 - Excerpt
3: Should I leave him?
Archive06 - Excerpt 15:
Humbling Oneself
Archive07 - Excerpt
3: Luring a Narcissist
Archive15 - Excerpt 2:
Treating your Narcissist
Archive15 - Excerpt
4: What to tell your Narcissist?
Archive19 - Excerpt 4:
Leaving a Narcissist
Archive20 - Excerpt
5: How to Assuage a Narcissist
Archive21 -
Excerpt 2: The Narcissist in Court
Archive 31 - Excerpt 7:
Fighting Back
Archive
34 - Excerpt 9: How does the Narcissist Perceive my
Indifference to his Abuse?
Narcissists and Women
Archive05 - Excerpt
12: Male Narcissists and Women
Archive06 - Excerpt
6: Narcissists are Misogynists
Archive09 - Excerpt
4: Narcissists and Women
Archive13 - Excerpt
6: Misogynism Once More ...
Archive26 -
Excerpt 1: Women
The Narcissist and His Mate /
Colleague / Partner / Spouse /
Family
Archive01 - Excerpt
6: Rescue Fantasies
Archive01 - Excerpt
7: Loving a Narcissist
Archive02 - Excerpt
2: Narcissists in the Family
Archive03 - Excerpt
3: Should I leave him?
Archive03 -
Excerpt 4: Significant Others, Significant Roles
Archive03 - Excerpt
6: Humans as Instruments
Archive04 - Excerpt
4: Narcissists as Friends
Archive05 - Excerpt 11:
Narcissists and Happy Marriages
Archive05 - Excerpt
16: The Narcissist as Body Snatcher
Archive06 - Excerpt
2: VoNPD (Victims of NPD)
Archive06 - Excerpt
3: Surrounded by Inferiors
Archive06 - Excerpt
4: Narcissists Hurting Others
Archive06 - Excerpt 12:
The Narcissistic Hunt
Archive06 -
Excerpt 13: WHY?
Archive06 - Excerpt 15:
Humbling Oneself
Archive07 - Excerpt
3: Luring a Narcissist
Archive07 - Excerpt
5: Victim or Survivor?
Archive08 - Excerpt
3: Disinterested Narcissists
Archive08 - Excerpt 12:
Accusing the Victims
Archive09 - Excerpt
5: Narcissists and their Ex's
Archive09 - Excerpt
6: Narcissists Victimize
Archive10 - Excerpt
7: Hurting Others
Archive10 - Excerpt
8: Narcissists and Intimacy
Archive11 - Excerpt
2: Abandoning the Narcissist
Archive11 -
Excerpt 3: Unloving the Sick or Needy Spouse
Archive11 - Excerpt 4: Moving
On
Archive11 - Excerpt 5:
Inspirational Messages
Archive11 - Excerpt 6: The
Phases of Mourning
Archive11 -
Excerpt 7: Forgiving Enemies, Forgetting Friends
Archive12 - Excerpt 7: NPD
Son
Archive12 - Excerpt 14:
Being Nice to Others
Archive13 - Excerpt
2: The Test of Archaic Chinese
Archive14 - Excerpt
4: Narcissists and Abandonment
Archive15 - Excerpt 2:
Treating your Narcissist
Archive15 - Excerpt
4: What to tell your Narcissist?
Archive15 -
Excerpt 5: Narcissists Hate Happy People
Archive16 - Excerpt 4:
Healing through Hatred
Archive18 - Excerpt 3: You
are not to Blame!
Archive19 - Excerpt 3:
Living with a Narcissist
Archive19 -
Excerpt 4: Leaving a Narcissist
Archive20 - Excerpt
5: How to Assuage a Narcissist
Archive20 -
Excerpt 6: Don't Kiss Me without Permission
Archive20 - Excerpt 8: Love
as Domination
Archive21 -
Excerpt 8: The Presumption of Understanding the Narcissist - A Piece of
Irony
Archive22 - Excerpt 5:
Meaningful to Who?
Archive23 -
Excerpt 6: The Narcissist as a Meaningful Other
Archive24 - Excerpt 7:
Punishing Others
Archive25 - Excerpt 2:
Narcissists as Vampires
Archive25 - Excerpt 3: The
Need to be Hopeful
Archive25 - Excerpt
5: The Narcissist as Predator
Archive25 - Excerpt 6: Seeking
Help
Archive26 - Excerpt 2: Do not be
Afraid
Archive26 - Excerpt 11:
Loving Narcissism
Archive 27 -
Excerpt 3: Love
Archive 27 - Excerpt 4: It
is not What you DO
Archive 27 - Excerpt
5: You know what you have to DO
Archive
27 - Excerpt 6: Presumptions
Archive 27 - Excerpt 7:
Humanizing the Beast
Archive28 - Excerpt 4: The
Human Maelstroms
Archive28 - Excerpt 6:
Detoxifying
Archive30 -
Excerpt 2: The Off-Handed Narcissist
Archive30 - Excerpt 5:
Personal Incompatibility
Archive 31 - Excerpt
2: Saying Goodbye
Archive 31 - Excerpt
4: Creating Dependence
Archive 31 - Excerpt
5: N-magnets a Bad Metaphor
Archive 31 - Excerpt 7:
Fighting Back
Archive 32 -
Excerpt 1: How to Protect my Son from Narcissism?
Archive 33
- Excerpt 5: Narcissists, Violence and Domestic Abuse
Archive 34 - Excerpt 1:
Follies a Deux
Archive 34 - Excerpt
6: The Professional Victims
Archive 35 - Excerpt
1: How to Leave a Narcissist
Archive 35 - Excerpt
4: Narcissists and Children
Narcissists
in the Workplace
Archive02 - Excerpt 11:
The Narcissist Employer
Narcissism and Historical Figures
Archive01 - Excerpt
8: Hitler and Narcissism
Archive01 - Excerpt
12: Bill Clinton - a Narcissist?
Co-Morbidity (Narcissism with other Mental Health Disorders)
and Dual Diagnosis
(Narcissism with Substance Abuse)
Archive04 - Excerpt
1: HPD (Histrionic Personality Disorder) and Somatic
NPD
Archive04- Excerpt
2: Narcissists and Depression
Archive04- Excerpt
6: DID and NPD
Archive04 -
Excerpt 7: NPD and ADHD
Archive04 - Excerpt
11: BPD, NPD and other Cluster B PDs
Archive07 - Excerpt
8: NPDs and other PDs
Archive07 - Excerpt
9: Incest without Sex?
Archive07 - Excerpt 10:
NPD and DID
Archive07-
Excerpt 11: Plasticity
Archive08 -
Excerpt 9: BPD and NPD
Archive08 - Excerpt
10: The Personality Disordered
Archive08 - Excerpt
11: Robert Hare
Archive08 - Excerpt
13: Multiple Diagnoses and NPD
Archive08 - Excerpt
2: Narcissism, Wife Beating and Alcoholism
Archive09 - Excerpt
2: Schizotypal Personality Disorder
Archive12 - Excerpt
9: Co-dependents and Narcissists
Archive12 - Excerpt 11:
Narcissist the Sadist
Archive19 - Excerpt 1:
The Hated-Hating Personality Disordered
Archive20 -
Excerpt 4: The Borderline Narcissist - A Psychotic?
Archive20 - Excerpt 7: The
Root of Evil
Archive21 - Excerpt 5:
Masochism and Narcissism
Archive22 - Excerpt 1:
Narcissists and Sexual Perversions
Archive22 -
Excerpt 3: Hysteroid Dysphoria
Archive23 - Excerpt
7: On the Irrelevance of Labeling
Archive 27 -
Excerpt 2: The Inverted Narcissist - A Masochist?
Archive28 -
Excerpt 7: NPD, AsPD
Archive
34 - Excerpt 5: The Diagnostic and Statistics Manual
(DSM)
Our
Narcissistic Culture
Archive01 - Excerpt 10:
NPD, culture and normalcy
Archive01 - Excerpt 15:
Narcissism and Culture
Archive01 - Excerpt
16: The vocations of Narcissists
Archive02 - Excerpt
5: In Defense of Narcissists
Archive02 - Excerpt
8: From "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho
Archive02 - Excerpt
9: Narcissism's Gifts to Humanity
Archive03 - Excerpt
5: Lasch, the Cultural Narcissist
Archive04 - Excerpt 10:
Should we License Parents?
Archive05 - Excerpt
1: Jeffrey Satinover on the Myth of Narcissus
Archive05 - Excerpt
5: Narcissists and the Order of the World
Archive06 - Excerpt
5: Narcissists and Art
Archive06 - Excerpt
9: Narcissism and Evil
Archive06 - Excerpt
10: Why do Narcissists Exist?
Archive07
- Excerpt 12: A Core of Values?
Archive07 - Excerpt 13:
Licensing Parents (continued)
Archive07 - Excerpt 14:
Nations as Patients
Archive08 - Excerpt
6: Atheism
Archive09 - Excerpt
1: Love and Sex
Archive10 - Excerpt
9: Personality Disorders are Culture-Dependent?
Archive12 - Excerpt
2: The Cultural Roots of one Narcissist
Archive12 - Excerpt 15:
Prostituting our Selves
Archive14 - Excerpt 7:
Narcissism and Nihilism
Archive15
- Excerpt 7: Punishing Evil
Archive15 -
Excerpt 8: Psychology
Archive18 - Excerpt 1:
Linear Time, Cyclical Time
Archive18 -
Excerpt 9: Oh, God
Archive23 -
Excerpt 3: Narcissistic Thoughts about Humanity
Archive36 - Excerpt
1: Politicians as Narcissists
Sam Vaknin, NPD
Archive03
- Excerpt 2: Personal Anecdote
Archive03
- Excerpt 11: Sam Vaknin, NPD
Archive05 - Excerpt 14: My
Role in the List
Archive05 - Excerpt 15:
This Paradoxical List...
Archive06 -
Excerpt 11: I am Very Sad
Archive06 - Excerpt
16: The Time before Narcissism
Archive07 - Excerpt
2: My Shame
Archive14 -
Excerpt 6: Realizations
Archive15 - Excerpt 3:
Forgetting my Self
Archive16 - Excerpt 1:
Self Destructing Narcissists
Archive16 - Excerpt 2:
The Fear of Being Loved
Archive17 - Excerpt 1:
Interview with a Narcissist
Archive17 - Excerpt 2:
Another One ... (Interview)
Archive17 - Excerpt 3:
Email Exchange in preparation for an interview granted to Bob Goodman of
"Natterbox"
Archive20 - Excerpt 9: My
Guardian Angel
Archive22
- Excerpt 2: I Hate Birthdays
Archive23 - Excerpt 1:
Interview at Amazon UK
Archive24 - Excerpt 2:
About Myself (what else?)
Archive24 -
Excerpt 3: Myself as a Source of Narcissistic Supply to Others, or: The
Existence of Others
Archive24 - Excerpt 4:
Right Now I am Enraged
Archive26 - Excerpt 3: The
Information Addict
Archive28 - Excerpt 1:
The Digital Narcissist (SEX)
Archive29 - Excerpt 1:
Here you are, Madam
Archive29 -
Excerpt 2: Human Supply
Archive29 - Excerpt 3:
The Time of the Narcissist
Archive29 - Excerpt
4: Abuse
Archive29 -
Excerpt 5: Success
Archive29 -
Excerpt 6: Rejection
Archive 35 - Excerpt
5: Why do I Write Poetry?
Archive 36 -
Excerpt 3: Interview - The Narcissist as an Author
My Journals
How
I "became" a Narcissist
My
Woman and I
Narcissist, the Machine
Looking for a Family
The
Magic of my Thinking
The
Music of My Emotions
I
Love to be Hated
Grandiosity Deconstructed
The
Entitlement of Routine
Wasted Lives
The
Split Narcissist
The
Anxiety of Boredom
A
Great Admiration
The
Narcissist in Love
Why
do I Write Poetry?
The
Sad Dreams of the Narcissist
The
Lonely Narcissist
The
Green Eyed Narcissist
The
Discontinuous Narcissist
Dr.
Jackal and Mr. Hide
Portrait of the Narcissist as a Young Man
Pseudologica Fantastica
I
Cannot Forgive
The
Ghost in the Machine
That Thing Between a Man and a Woman
The
Malignant Optimism of the Abused
No One
Counts to Ten
The
Ubiquitous Narcissist
The
Disappearance of the Witnesses
Physique
Dysmorphique
Being
There
Other
People's Pain
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