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These pages tell the story of my own journey through multiple personalities (Dissociative Identity Disorder/DID). I believe that each of us has a unique healing journey, so I don't want to generalize, to say that what I have experienced will be true for you. However, reading the experience of others has helped me feel less alone and has given me a wealth of ideas from which I could pick and choose as I worked out my own path. I hope my story can serve others the same way.

Multiple personalities are a gift, a way in which I was somehow able to protect myself in an unbearable situation when I was a child. I honor the others who developed inside me. My own journey led towards those others becoming less separate, but other people find ways to live effectively as a community.

If you're wondering if you are multiple, or you're learning to live with a DID diagnosis, please start from my Pam in SC page. There, you'll find reflections on being multiple and the self-expressions of my own inside people.

During the first part of my own journey, I decided I didn't want to integrate. However, what happened is that when I loved my inside people enough so that I didn't want them to ever go away, then they didn't need to be separate anymore. I missed their uniqueness, but I found that I needed a kind of strength and flexibility I got from working as a whole. The rough, uncertain integration that I experienced was not the end of my journey, but a step along the way. Since then I have confronted the most painful memories and begun to find deeper healing. For this part of my journey, please start from my PEM page.

Whatever the stage of your own journey, you may find the book reviews and links sections helpful. I also have a page for daughters who were abused by mothers and other women because this type of abuse has had much less attention than it deserves.

Thank you for visiting and welcome to Pem/Pam in SC.

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