Compulsive
Overeating:
Dealing with the Feelings
and How to Treat It
online conference transcript
Dr. Deborah Gross, our guest
speaker, is a board-certified psychiatrist and also the president of a
company that helps people with compulsive overeating (emotional
overeating, binge eating).
David is the HealthyPlace.com
moderator.
The people in green are audience
members.
BEGINNING:
David: Good evening everyone.
I'm David Roberts. I'm the moderator for tonight's conference. I want to
welcome everyone to HealthyPlace.com.
I hope your day has gone well. Our conference tonight is on "Compulsive
Overeating: Dealing with the Feelings and How to Treat It". Our
guest is Dr. Deborah Gross. Dr. Gross is a board-certified psychiatrist in
private practice. She is also the president and co-founder of Sea Star, a
company that produces programs to help people deal with compulsive
overeating (emotional overeating, binge eating).
Good evening, Dr. Gross and welcome to HealthyPlace.com.
We appreciate you being here tonight. Can you give us your definition of
what "overeating" is?
Dr Gross: Overeating is
eating more than you meant to, or more than what is healthy for you. Compulsive
overeating is a different thing. A compulsion is anything we feel
driven to do in spite of knowing that it is harmful
David: What causes someone to
compulsively overeat? Is it brain chemically oriented or is it more of a
psychological thing?
Dr Gross: The head bone is
connected to the rest of the body, therefore, usually both elements are
involved. Compulsive overeating, in one sense is an addiction, like
alcoholism or drug addiction. It's not a weakness or a moral issue.
David: So, are you saying that some
people have a propensity to compulsively overeat?
Dr Gross: Yes. Newer research is
showing that the rate of compulsive overeating is much higher with blood
relatives who have other compulsive or addictive disorders.
David: With many addictions, like
drugs or alcohol, the addict finds it almost impossible to help himself
stop using the substance and therefore self-help is really ineffective.
Does that hold true for compulsive overeating?
Dr Gross: Good questions. Relapse
happens in all compulsive disorders and it is important to have help, like
a coach or a whole team of helpers. Many of the same tools used in AA, for
example, can be used to help yourself with compulsive overeating.
David: What about the emotional
tie-in to compulsive overeating? I'd like you to address that, and then
we'll have some questions from the audience.
Dr Gross: Feelings influence food
behavior. It starts in the cradle. Baby gets hungry, baby cries, mama
feeds and cuddles, so the connections is really strong. You must learn to
emotionally nourish yourself well in all ways, because not all hunger is
for food. Ask yourself "is it my stomach that is hungry or my
heart"?
David: How would you suggest one do
that-- nourish yourself in other ways?
Dr Gross: The first thing you have
to do is, learn what your triggers are for emotional overeating. For
example, if you are extremely stressed out at the end of the day, before
you go to the fridge and eat everything in there, try doing things that
are relaxing for you, like take a walk, a bath, call a friend. I tell my
patients to move the body, feed the mind and lavishly indulge the
sprit.
David: Here are some audience
questions:
DrkEyes2 A: What is behind the
addiction to compulsively overeat?
Dr Gross: All of the research
indicates that the biological part of the problem lives in a place in the
brain called the mesolimbic system. This place is very deep inside our
brain, and it's very primitive, so it doesn't listen to reason. There are
also some brain chemicals, like serotonin, which maybe involved, although
there is a lot we don't know. Depressive disorders and anxiety disorders
are problems for some people as well.
mazey: I want to get control over
my food intake but it saddens me as I continue to eat foods that make me
real sick. I have the intellect but my emotions take control. Having
Borderline Personality Disorder, will I ever be able to get a grip?
Dr Gross: Where there is breath
there is hope. Most people with Borderline Personality Disorder, have had
lots of losses, and so it is tempting to try to fill the empty place with
food. Working on making your relationships more healthy will probably be
very key to you.
David: Is there any medication out
there that can help block the "feeling of wanting to eat" or is
it all on the emotional level?
Dr Gross: Numerous medications have
been studied for this purpose. Meridia has helped some people.
kateviennaoh: I have been fighting
my overeating and bingeing for most of my life, with only temporary
success. At this point, I can't see any way of being successful long term.
I don't see or feel any hope. I don't know what to do except give up and
eat. Thanks, Kate
Dr Gross: Don't give up. You're
worth more than that. A person worth is not measured in pounds. I have a
chapter in my upcoming book about this and I call it "Priced by the
Pound". Society does that to you, but don't do it to yourself,
please.
David: And I think Kate brings up a
great point here, doctor. Right now, society frowns on people being
overweight. Some people are downright rude about it. How, as a compulsive
overeater, can you deal with that emotionally, and not let your
self-esteem hit rock bottom?
Dr Gross: Here's what I tell my
patient's my motto is: "Always remember that it is perfectly
possible to be perfectly wonderful without being anywhere near perfect".
David: For everyone's information,
Dr. Gross has a website called Dear Dr.
Deb. And you can email the doctor at deardrdeb@aol.com.
I want to address one thing about Meridia, there are some questions as
to its safety. Are you still recommending that to your patients?
Dr Gross: It depends on the
specific situation. Medically and psychologically, no medications should
be used without careful discussion with your doctor of the risks and
side-effects, versus the potential benefits.
David: One other question I wanted
to ask, since you compared compulsive overeating with an addiction. With
an addiction, the doctors say you are never really "cured," you
just manage it better. Is that the same with compulsive overeating?
Dr Gross: Absolutely! That is an
important though unpleasant reality. The difference between alcoholism and
compulsive overeating is that while the alcoholic can stay out of bars,
the compulsive overeater can never get away from food. I think that
accounts for a lot of the relapse problems.
kateviennaoh: Are there programs
like detox for compulsive overeating? If so, what, and where are they?
Dr Gross: I consider all highly
structured diet programs to be similar to a detox. The research shows that
sometimes it is helpful for people to take a break from making decisions
about food, that is why many commercial diet programs have highly
structured eating plans at the beginning, and allow more choices as time
goes on.
David: Here is the link to our dieting
community. There's a great site there called Pink Pig Scribbles, where
Astrophe diaries and talks about her struggles and what she's doing.
jat: I'm tired of trying different
medications. I was on Paxil for awhile. Then it wasn't working anymore. As
I tried to taper off, I experienced withdrawal. I've tried Prozac, Zoloft,
and they didn't work. I tried Zyprexa,Effexor and had bad reactions. How
can I be expected to even be willing to try another drug? And then,
there's the insomnia I experience. When I do take a medication, I then
need something else to help me sleep. Presently, I'm just taking St. Johns
Wort and that isn't working at all. Where should I go from here? Or do I
even bother with medications anymore?
Dr Gross: I can't give medical
advice of that kind in this format, but I know it is frustrating to try
and try, and have so many problems. I assume you are trying these
medications for depression. Nowadays people have so many options that
sometimes it's important to be sure that the psychological factors are
being addressed. The research shows that a combo of medications and
psychotherapy is best for complicated situations.
David: I'd like some feedback from
the audience. Maybe you could share some of the emotional issues you are
dealing with as a result of compulsive overeating. A lot of times, people
feel they are the only ones who feel this way and by sharing this you
might be helping someone else here tonight.
Dr. Gross, you have a program to help compulsive overeaters. Can you
describe it and tell us a little more about it? And how effective is it?
Dr Gross: My program is called
"the food and feelings system for weight loss wellness".
It can be an additive to any program for the diet math "the calories
and exercise part". It starts with having your food and feelings
profile done. This self-test identifies the 12 food and feeling or
compulsive overeating issues that I've found to be most important. Then
you get a teaching module for each one of these.
David: Here are some audience
responses regarding emotional issues:
jat: I am dealing with overeating
and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I was doing so well with food, then I
had a hysterectomy about 2 years ago and have gained so much weight. Now
body image is a major issue as well as depression.
mazey: I have fatty liver disease.
My trigs. were over 1400. My liver stuck out of my stomach even when I was
at my heaviest. Real sad. I have a lot of self-hatred and embarrassment. I
try to not eat in front of people because I'm fat, and when I eat at home
I hate myself.
susie: When I am deep in
depression, I feed the need for more and more food, even though I know
that I have just eaten.
caglel: At times, my desire to eat
is greater than my desire to lose weight. Do you have any tips on
motivation?
Dr Gross: I define motivation as
"you, plus all available help". Think hard about what has worked
for you in the past and what has not. Having a trainer or a doctor or a
nutritionist to give you professional help is a big advantage. But
motivation is mostly all about You. Write down your goals, and why
you want to lose weight, and read it everyday. It has to be for You.
David: Here's another audience
response:
kateviennaoh: I'm doing the therapy
etc., but when I'm alone I want to eat. I know what I need to do, but I
don't!
DrkEyes2 A: So what is the NEED
that is served by overeating?
Dr Gross: There is a reflex between
your stomach and your brain. Think about puppies you have known. When you
feed the puppy until it's belly is stuffed, it goes to sleep. Food is a
very effective tranquilizer. Momma nature wanted us to survive, so she
made us with a very strong connection to food.
zeesant: I have tried many so
called diets in my time, however, in time, different issues come up in my
life that stop me in my tracks. Do you know of anything available that
would help me know what my issues are concerning how my feelings control
my diet?
Dr Gross: The food and feelings
profile I mentioned, was designed to do that, to help you figure out what
your triggers are for overeating. If you email
me, I can give you more info about that. But in the mean time, ask
yourself this question: what sends me to the fridge? If the answer isn't
food or hunger, then you could eat everything in your house and still not
feel any better.
hpcharles: The speed with which I
substituted food stuff for cigarettes was incredible. Five months and 35
pounds later, and no sense of guilt - only justification...now what!!??
Dr Gross: That's a common problem.
I'm glad you don't feel guilty, because feeling guilty makes people want
to overeat more. Create a tool box of other things you can do besides
overeating, surround yourself with little things you love, reward yourself
with non-food items, figure out what builds you up and nourishes you
emotionally. Also be sure that you know how to say the "N"
word....NO.
David: If food is your
"comforter" and helps you through the emotional issues, what do
you replace it with?
Dr Gross: That depends on what the
emotional issues are. If you have self-esteem problems you must learn to
think more positively about yourself. Most of us are much better at doing
this for other people, than we are for ourselves. I tell people to work on
being a good momma to themselves.
David: One final question, do the
antidepressants, like Paxil, Wellbutrin, Prozac, help with controlling
compulsive overeating?
Dr Gross: Sometimes, but also these
medications are associated with weight in long use.
David: I know it's getting late. I
appreciate you coming tonight Dr. Gross, and sharing your knowledge with
us. I also want to thank everyone in the audience for coming and
participating. I hope you found it helpful. Good night everyone.
Dr Gross: Thank you very much for
inviting me.
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