The
Contributions of Feminist Therapy
By Tammie Byram
Fowles, MSW, Ph.D.
My
work has been influenced greatly by feminist therapists such as Toni
Ann Laidlaw, Cheryl Malmo, Joan Turner, Jan Ellis, Diane Lepine,
Harriet Goldhor Lerner, Joan Hamerman, Jean Baker Miller, and Miriam
Greenspan -- to name only a few. I've found that what seems to be
the universal core of such therapy is that clients and therapist
must operate as equals in the therapy endeavor. This perspective
fits well within my own personal values and belief system.
In her book, A New Approach to Women and
Therapy" (1983), Miriam Greenspan explores the impact of
"traditional" and "growth" therapies on women as
well as describes "feminist" therapy in action. In doing
so she offers a great deal of insight regarding the role of the
therapist in feminist work including:
1) That the therapist's most essential tool is
herself as a person.
There have been so many occasions in my years
as a therapist that I've sat speechless with a client, knowing all
too well that there are no words that will comfort, justify, or
explain the pain away. There have been all too many times when all
my years of studying the human psyche and condition still render me
helpless to alter a particular circumstance, belief, or feeling. On
these occasions I can only offer my support, my caring, and my
understanding. I'm humbled at these moments but not disempowered.
I've learned that in joining another human being in his or her pain;
in being a steady and present witness; in respecting the magnitude
and depth of their feelings, I can't lead them out of the darkness,
but I can stand beside them. Anyone who has ever been deeply afraid
or saddened recognizes that an outstretched hand can be a true gift.
2) That it is essential therapy be demystified
from the beginning in order for clients to achieve a sense of their
own power (and responsibility, I would add) in therapy. Greenspan
observes that, "Therapy must be geared to helping the client
see that she must be her own rescuer - that the power she longs for
is not in someone else but in herself."
I was visiting with a very special friend and
fellow therapist one day discussing movies we'd seen over the years.
She reminded me of a scene in a movie whose title I have long since
forgotten. In this particular scene, the main character is at a
party where she meets up with her therapist. They chat for a few
moments and then part company. A friend approaches the main
character and asks who the woman was that she had been talking to.
The heroine responds, "that's no woman. That's my
therapist!"
This scene illustrates the mystique that
therapists often have with their clients. While intellectually our
client's realize that we, too, are imperfect and possess our own
difficulties and short-comings, they very often manage somehow to
perceive us as somewhat "larger than life." They often
look to us to provide the "right" answers, point the way,
or tell them how to "fix it". Our responsibility is not to
oblige them (even if we could), but to assist them in recognizing
and learning to trust their own power and wisdom.
3) That rules of the therapeutic relationship
should be overtly stated and mutually agreed upon. This doesn't mean
that the therapist explains the rules by which the client is
expected to operate, but rather that the client and therapist
explore their expectations of one another together and jointly come
to an agreement of what each person's role and responsibilities will
be.
4) That within every symptom, no matter how
painful or problematic, there exists a strength.
Helen Gahagan Douglas in The Eleanor Roosevelt
We Remember" ("The Quotable Woman", Vol. Two, edited
by Elaine Partnow, 1963,) wrote:
"Would Eleanor Roosevelt have had to
struggle to overcome this tortuous shyness if she had grown up
secure in the knowledge that she was a beautiful girl? If she hadn't
struggled so earnestly, would she have been so sensitive to the
struggles of others? Would a beautiful Eleanor Roosevelt have
escaped from the confinements of the mid-Victorian drawing room
society in which she was reared? Would a beautiful Eleanor Roosevelt
have wanted to escape? Would a beautiful Eleanor Roosevelt have had
the same need to be, to do?"
Perhaps Eleanor would have still accomplished
all that she was to achieve in her lifetime, beautiful or not;
however, it's been reported that Eleanor herself confided that her
insecurity about her looks often motivated her.
Wayne Muller, in Legacy of the Heart: The
Spiritual Advantages of a Painful Childhood (1992) observed while
working with individuals who had experienced painful childhood's
that, "...even as they struggled to be free, the reverberations
of family sorrow continued to infect their adult lives, their loves,
even their dreams. Yet, at the same time I've also noted that adults
who were hurt as children inevitably exhibit a peculiar strength, a
profound inner wisdom, and a remarkable creativity and
insight."
In the introduction of "Healing Voices:
Feminist Approaches To Therapy With Women" (1990), Laidlaw and
Malmo state that feminist therapists welcome their clients'
inquiries about the therapist's values, methods and orientations.
They also:
(1) at appropriate times share their own
experiences in order to assist their clients;
(2) encourage their clients to take an active
part in making decisions about the course of therapy;
(3) and allow the client final say over the
content of a session, the choice of method, and the pacing of
therapeutic work.
SELF DISCLOSURE
The degree of therapist self-disclosure is an
area in which a wide range of opinions exists. For some, the
therapist should not provide personal information to the client in
almost any circumstance. Others firmly maintain that some personal
information is not only acceptable at times, but advisable. I find
myself agreeing with the latter. In order for a true therapeutic
relationship to develop, in my opinion, therapist and client
generally must achieve some level of intimacy. I don’t believe
that such intimacy can exist without the therapist sharing some
limited aspects of his or her own life from time to time. Carl
Rogers urged therapists to be genuine. How can one be genuine when
conscientiously hiding all personal aspects of oneself? When a
client asks if I am angry with them and I say that I'm not (after
all, therapists should never experience anger toward a client) when
in fact I am angry, I am not only being disrespectful, I'm
inflicting damage. When a client observes that I look like I've had
a hard day, and I deny that I have, when the truth is that the day
has been extremely difficult, I've become a liar to someone whose
trust is extremely important. This doesn't mean that I should
proceed to describe my day to the client, but that I merely
acknowledge that the client's observation is a perceptive and
accurate one.
Lenore E. A. Walker, in her piece, "A
feminist Therapist Views The Case" from "Women as
Therapists" ( Cantor, 1990), provides an overview of the
guiding principles of feminist therapy, including:
1) Egalitarian relationships between clients
and therapists serve as a model for women to take personal
responsibility to develop egalitarian relationships with others
instead of the more traditional passive, dependent female role.
While it is excepted that the therapist knows more in terms of
psychology, the client knows herself better. That knowledge is as
critical as the therapist's skills in developing a successful
therapeutic relationship.
2) The feminist therapist focuses on the
enhancement of women's strengths rather than remediation of their
weaknesses.
3) The feminist model is nonpathology-oriented
and non-victim blaming.
4) Feminist therapists accept and validate
their clients’ feelings. They are also more self-disclosing than
other therapists thus removing the we-they barrier between
therapists and their clients. This limited reciprocity is a feminist
goal that is believed to enhance the relationship.
Milton Erikson spoke often of the importance
of joining with our clients. It's difficult from my perspective to
accomplish this if we're placed somewhere above our clients and
often out of their reach. To truly understand another, we must be
willing to get close enough to really see; we can miss so much when
keeping back too great a distance. Perhaps, in part, the distance is
recommended, because it's not possible to observe imperfections and
vulnerabilities close up without risking our own being exposed from
time to time. Therapists need not be perfect in order to be
effective; in fact, they don't even need to be smarter.
Janet O'Hare and Katy Taylor in the book,
Women Changing Therapy (1985), edited by Joan Hammerman Robbins and
Rachel Josefowitz Siegel, provide a number of insights and
recommendations for working with victims of sexual abuse including:
(1) A controlling therapist is too much like
the abuser to be helpful;
When we encounter an individual who has been
abused, our assuming control of the therapeutic process is bound to
be threatening to most. Such individuals have been told what to do
very often for much of their lives, and voluntarily surrendering now
to the mandates of yet another feels uncomfortably familiar. Victims
and survivors need to be empowered to act in their own best
interests, to make their own decisions, and communicate their needs
effectively. Attempting to acquire these abilities in the presence
of a controlling "expert" is hardly conducive to producing
these results.
(2) The client must be encouraged to recognize
her own strengths.
Often victims and survivors of abuse are
acutely aware of their inadequacies and have little faith in their
strengths. It is important that when working with these individuals
that the therapist focus on and strive to develop strengths vs.
honing in on and seeking to remediate inadequacies. In fact, many of
the tendencies that survivors (and some therapists) perceive as
weaknesses are, in fact, just the opposite -- assets to be
recognized and appreciated.
(3) The therapist must honor the client's own
healing process and allow the healing to proceed at the client's own
pace.
Not being controlling need not mean being
non-directive. In operating from a brief treatment perspective, it's
absolutely necessary that the therapist remain active and quite
often provide direction. This from my perspective, indicates that we
must serve as guides and facilitators. It may be important to
remember that when one engages the services of a guide when
embarking on a journey, it's ultimately the role of the one to be
guided to determine the destination, the limits of the distance to
be traveled, the stops along the way, and the overall pace. It's the
guide’s responsibility to meet the objectives of the guided.
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