There is a
Solution
We, of Alcoholics Anonymous, know thousands of men and
women who were once just as hopeless as Bill. Nearly all have recovered. They
have solved the drink problem.
We are average Americans. All sections of this country
and many of its occupations are represented, as well as many political,
economic, social, and religious backgrounds. We are people who normally would
not mix. But there exists among us a fellowship, a friendliness, and an
understanding which is indescribably wonderful. We are like the passengers of a
great liner the moment after rescue from shipwreck when camaraderie, joyousness
and democracy pervade the vessel from steerage to Captain's table. Unlike the
feelings of the ship's passengers, however, our joy in escape from disaster
does not subside as we go our individual ways. The feeling of having shared in
a common peril is one element in the powerful cement which binds us. But that
in itself would never have held us together as we are now joined.
The tremendous fact for every one of us is that we have
discovered a common solution. We have a way out on which we can absolutely
agree, and upon which we can join in brotherly and harmonious action. This us
the great news this book carried to those who suffer from alcoholism.
An Illness of sorts and we have come to believe it an
illness involves those around us in a way no other human sickness can. If a
person has cancer all are sorry for him and no one is angry or hurt. But not so
with the alcoholic illness, for with it there goes annihilation of all the
things worth while in life. It engulfs all whose lives touch the sufferer's. It
brings misunderstanding, fierce resentment, financial insecurity, disgusted
friends and employers, warped lives of blameless children, sad wives and
parents any one can increase the list.
We hope this volume will inform and comfort those who
are, who may be affected. There are many.
Highly competent psychiatrists who have dealt with us
have found it sometimes impossible to persuade an alcoholic to discuss his
situation without reserve. Strangely enough, wives, parents and intimate
friends usually find us more unapproachable than do the psychiatrist and the
doctor.
But the ex-problem drinker who has found this solution,
who is properly armed with facts about himself, can generally win the entire
confidence of another alcoholic in a few hours. Until such an understanding is
reached, little or nothing can be accomplished.
That the man who is making the approach has had the same
difficulty, that he obviously knows what he is talking about, that his whole
deportment shouts at the new prospect that he is a man with a real answer, that
he has no attitude of Holier Than Thou, nothing whatever except the sincere
desire to be helpful; that there are no fees to pay, no axes to grind, no
people to please, no lectures to be endured these are the conditions we have
found most effective. After such an approach many take up their beds and walk
again.
None of us makes a sole vocation of this work, nor do we
think its effectiveness would be increased if we did. We feel that elimination
of our drinking is but a beginning. A much more important demonstration of our
principles lies before us in our respective homes, occupations, and affairs.
All of us spend much of our spare time in the sort of effort which we are going
to describe. A few are fortunate enough to be situated that they can give
nearly all their time to the work.
If we keep on the way we are going there is little doubt
that much good will result, but the surface of the problem would hardly be
scratched. Those of us who live in large cities are overcome by the reflection
that close by hundreds are dropping into oblivion every day. Many could recover
if they had the opportunity we have enjoyed. How then shall we present that
which has been so freely given to us?
We have concluded to publish an anonymous volume setting
forth the problem as we see it. We shall bring to the task our combined
experience and knowledge. This should suggest a useful program for anyone
concerned with a drinking problem.
Of necessity there will have to be discussion of matters
medical, psychiatric, social, and religious. We are aware that these matters
are, from their very nature, controversial. Nothing would please us so much as
to write a book which would contain no basis for contention or argument. We
shall do our utmost to achieve that ideal. Most of us sense that real tolerance
of other people's shortcomings and viewpoints and a respect for their opinions
are attitudes which make us more useful to others. Our very lives, as
ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may
help meet their needs.
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