| Culture, Trauma and
Other Reflections |
By Dr. Rusanna
Ohanjanian
Excerpted from the Fall 1993 issue of the
Institute for Research in Metapsychology
Newsletter
Foreword by Gerald French
A bit of background:
Dr. Ohanjanian is a native of Armenia - a teacher,
clinician, and
researcher
who received her Ph.D. at the National Academy of Science in Moscow. When we
first met in the fall of 1991, Dr. Ohanjanian spoke virtually no English,
and I
was able to train her in the use of Traumatic Incident Reduction [TIR]
only
because her associate Feodor Konkov trained with her and was able to act as a
translator. Knowing by then something of the situation in Armenia, I never
truly expected to see her again when she left California to return to Yerevan.
I only hoped that despite the thousands of miles separating her from the
nearest source of support she might have found in working there with TIR, she
would find it possible amidst the relative chaos to make some good use of the
material and procedures she had studied during her brief stay at the Institute.
To my great delight, I found that not only had she been able to do
that, she
also managed subsequently, with the help of Dr. Konkov and others, to return
to California with her lovely 12 year old daughter, and that she now works and
lives not far from the Institute. We reestablished contact some months ago,
and following a conversation we had at the Institute concerning her life and
experience as a therapist both pre- and post-TIR training, I asked if she
would be willing to write an article about it for the Newsletter.
I use the term "conversation" advisedly, for her English has improved
dramatically and I had no difficulty at all in either understanding the story
she had to tell or in imagining that it might prove to be of more than passing
interest to others besides myself. Dr. Ohanjaian, however, had serious
misgivings about attempting to write an article in English for publication,
observing correctly that there's a significant gap between communicating
effectively in speech and putting words together as eloquently as she would
wish to in print. Eventually, however, she allowed me to persuade her, but
only on the condition that I would take responsibility for "putting flesh on
the bones" of her draft. This I in turn agreed to only on the condition that
she would work with me patiently to re-translate and approve every word I
might add to what she gave me to work with. The writing of her story thus
became not only a collaboration, but something of a labor of love as well, one
which required numerous meetings, discussions, and emendations. In the end,
Rusanna did me the honor of telling me that the "flesh" I had added came "as
if from a mirror", and that I had "read her heart" - words that meant a lot to
me.
- GDF
Culture, Trauma and Other Reflections,
by Dr. Rusanna Ohanjanian
In the spring of 1990, I was teaching psychology and clinical psychology at
Yeravan State University in Armenia and received a phone call in my apartment
one morning from Dr. Feodor Konkov, a friend and professional colleague then
working in Moscow. As might have been expected, given the chaotic upheavals
then and still being experienced throughout the splintered elements of what
had been the USSR, much of Feodor's work and mine at the time was focused on
trauma-related issues, and we shared an intense and vital interest in the
subject. Dr. Konkov's purpose in calling me was to tell me that through a
correspondence recently begun with a group in California called the Institute
for Research in Metapsychology, he had discovered the existence of what
appeared to him to be a "really amazing technique for dealing with trauma."
"Believe me," he said, "this is something really different."
That was my first exposure to Traumatic Incident Reduction [TIR], and although
Feodor went on to tell me a bit more about TIR, Metapsychology, and the
Institute, and although I found it interesting, I came away from the
conversation with a lot of questions. Some-times, you have to touch something
to understand what it really is, and the opportunity for me to do that did not
come until the next year.
In the fall of 1991, Feodor and I met Dr. Gerbode and Gerald French from IRM
in Washington, D.C., during the annual conference of the International
Society for Traumatic Stress Studies [ISTSS] which I was attending to deliver
a paper concerning the traumatization of Armenian children by the horrific
earthquake that had happened there in 1988.
While at the conference, I went to a presentation on TIR by Gerbode, French,
and others, and was particularly impressed by the videos they showed of live
TIR sessions. The results ("end points", as I later learned to call them)
were astonishing to me. We were able to watch - not just to be told about,
but actually to see - the
entire process of pain being transformed into relief in a single session, and
I became really interested in finding out more about "viewing", and this
technique called "TIR".
Let me I'll try to explain the intensity of that interest with a bit of
history:
I would not wish on anyone the experience of having seen as much trauma or as
many severely traumatized people as I have in my life. Armenia, December,
1988...the heart of a bitterly cold and terrible winter. One gray morning,
without warning, the earth rolled over in its sleep and in the space of less
than two minutes, a convulsive earthquake devastated a heavily populated area
roughly the size of the San Francisco Bay area. In those few appalling
seconds, Leninakan, Spitak, and many other villages and small towns were badly
damaged or simply erased - reduced to frozen and indifferent rubble,
forming
prisons for the living and tombs for the thousands, perhaps more fortunate,
who died without the chance to realize what had happened to them.
The weakening cries of conscious survivors, trapped in the ruins, went on for
hours...days. Thousands of others, unconscious or too severely injured to
make themselves heard, simply awaited death. Many were rescued, but for
thousands of others, the help which eventually came from all around the world,
arrived too late. Among those who perished were my own dear father and mother
and my lovely, angel-faced nephew, only four years old. My beloved childhood
home, whose every inch was sweet to me, I'll never see again.
There were hundreds of thousands who, like me, were given burdens difficult to
accept and impossible to forget.
For the uninjured survivors on the site of the disaster, though, there was no
time for the luxury of entering or remaining in the apathy of depression.
Without food or roofs to shelter them, they were nevertheless the first of the
rescuers to reach, where possible, their own families and children... and then
others, strangers to whom they were linked only by their common humanity.
Among the survivors and the others earliest to begin the work of rescue -
doctors, disaster aid workers, and relief teams - there were none who were not
in shock. Three or four days after the quake, "psychological first aid" for
their condition began to arrive in the form of psychologists, therapists, and
mental health and social workers, initially our colleagues from Moscow and
Georgia. Eventually they were joined by a host of unpaid volunteers -
psychologists from all over the world, especially France and the USA - and
they began to work in several Centers established for the purpose by the
Ministry of Health. These were located in the cities most affected by the
quake, and in Yerevan, the capital, where many of the evacuees were brought.
What were these centers? In many cases, they were nothing more than a couple
of cold, uncomfortable rooms, each with two hard chairs and perhaps a desk.
And outside, a long, barren hall where crowds of people, ever growing, sat and
waited their turn to enter one of the "magic rooms". And after their first
visit they would return, bringing families...kids... friends...neighbors....
Because within its limitations, the "first aid" worked for them, and nothing
else could even palliate the pain and grief they suffered. We used many
tools, the most effective of which in the first weeks were deep relaxation,
NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), and hypnotic suggestion.
Armenia is a small country. There are few psychologists there, and among
those, only a handful are psychotherapists. That's why, little more than a
week after the disaster, a group of my colleagues came to my home and asked me
to join them in helping at the Center in Yerevan. "Your place is there," they
said. "We need you to come and work with us."
I didn't understand. I couldn't. How could I, myself so hurt and needing
help, be any help to others? My days and nights were indistinguishable and
without end. I was incapable of meeting the eyes of my only sister, grief-
torn mother of my nephew. I wanted only to be left alone with the hopeless
hope that all of this might be just a nightmare from which I would soon awake
to see my loved ones laughing once again in the doorway of our home.
"No, no," they said, "none of us can understand these people as you do.
Please, just come there once, and you'll understand everything." And the next
day they came again and took me with them, numb and docile, to the Center.
The first time I entered that place, I felt as if I were seeing scenes and
events through some sort of screen, a gauzy curtain that kept everything at
arm's length - a part of some other reality. I saw many people waiting,
keeping silence, hopeless and helpless. Some of them had been evacuated from
little mountain villages and knew nothing of "psychotherapy". They only knew
they had been told, "It's help," and "It works."
The following day I returned to the Center and little by little, as the days
passed, I began to work. Often I'd be told, "Oh, doctor, you can't
understand... you can't imagine the pain... how it is to lose the dearest
people, to lose your home and everything you've worked for all your life, to
feel so alone and hopeless." I did understand, and came to understand as well
that it was right and good that I should be there, using such skills and
knowledge as I possessed to help them to experience relief, however slight.
During the first month after the quake, there were so many patients that we
needed to stay at the Center from 8:30 in the morning until 11:00 at night
every day. As therapists, even those among us who had not suffered personal
bereavement were traumatized simply by the constant exposure to the trauma of
others, and so the last two hours of each day consisted of workshops and group
therapy for the therapists.
In the ensuing months, the patient load diminished only slightly if at all,
but our time got much more organized. It began to be possible to actually
establish schedules and to see people by appointment. Nonetheless, we
frequently found ourselves with "late" clients because the Center was
affiliated with and situated quite close to one of the hotels in which many of
the evacuees had been housed. And all of them soon knew that we existed, and
were there nearby, and that that they could come to the Center for help "any
time until midnight." And they did.
The Clash of Care and Culture
We really worked hard, and in that short and taxing time, we gained experience
as therapists that would have taken years and years to acquire in a
conventional psychotherapeutic practice. And we learned - not only from the
experience but also from our fellow psychotherapists and colleagues in the
Center. Each of us practiced different techniques and represented different
schools and philosophies of psychology. Some of our tools were very
effective; some were not. But all of us came to agree that any approach,
tool, or technique that ignored or failed to take into account the national
background, traditions, and cultural bias of the client would fail miserably.
The best and most proven of techniques, employed by the most competent and
caring of therapists, proved no exception to this rule, whose workings may be
clarified by my describing a curious incident that happened at the Center
while I was working there.
About six weeks after the Center opened, someone brought in a lovely young
woman, 29 years old. She had lost her husband in the earthquake, and had gone
to live with their two children in the home of his parents' family.
Devastated by the loss, she was in deep depression and complained of terrible
flashbacks, sleeplessness, and anxiety, stating that she felt as if she had
died with her husband.
During that period, one of the psychotherapists volunteering at the Center - a
very competent professional, trained in France - was a woman born in France to
an Armenian family and fluent in the language, but one whose life had been
spent entirely in Europe. She began brief therapy with the young widow. Over
the course of two or three sessions, wanting to shed at least some small ray
of light into the depths of her client's depression, she attempted to suggest
to her some positive ways of thinking.
"You are young and very pretty," she told her. "You will be happy again one
day. You'll have love and a new family in your life...."
The next morning, when we arrived to open the doors of the Center, we found a
very large and very outraged delegation of the widow's husband's relatives
waiting for us. The head of the delegation was her mother-in-law -
determined, irate, and intent on meeting "that 'Doctor' who is teaching my
daughter-in-law to hurt the children, destroy the family, and break my broken
heart a second time!"
The psychotherapist from France was stunned.
This is far from being the only example I could cite of the sorts of
difficulties that arose whenever one of us attempted to employ what were
recognized in other contexts as valuable and productive techniques without
first recognizing the backgrounds of the people we were attempting to help,
and making adjustments for them. As the Center grew and we began to deal not
just with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) but with a much broader range
of psychological problems as well, that point was driven home to us over and
over again, especially when it came to dealing with rural folk and members of
the older generation. Some of the techniques we used proved more generally
useful and less culturally dependent than others. None had universal
applicability, and as our client base expanded to include refugees from
Azerbaijan, survivors of army violence in Georgia, and victims of the
Chernobyl disaster, we wished earnestly for one that did. Despite the
satisfaction we got from the knowledge that we were making an important
contribution, the work raised many, many questions.
In the autumn of 1991, I began to believe that I had found some answers -
especially to this question of how to deal effectively with representatives of
such widely disparate ethnic groups and cultural backgrounds. That fall, I
spent two weeks at the Institute in Menlo Park learning some of the theory of
metapsychology and the practice of TIR. The more I came to understand it, the
more TIR seemed to me be a really powerful verbal technique whose efficacy
might prove to be in no way dependent on its having to "match" the ethnic
backgrounds and cultural traditions of the client population. And on my
return to the former Soviet Union [FSU], I found to my great delight that
indeed it was not culturally bound. It worked "across the board".
Resistance
TIR also helped me to overcome another obstacle that we met often in our work.
One of the most common ethno-culturally determined phenomena we encountered in
our clients was a very strong resistance not only to psychotherapists but to
the entire concept of psychotherapy. This resistance is firmly rooted in
cultures that frown heavily upon "washing your dirty laundry in public" (a
phrase whose Armenian equivalent is "showing your garbage to your neighbors").
On the one hand, they knew they needed help; it was why they had come to us.
On the other, the idea of revealing even the fact - let alone the nature and
details - of their personal problems and suffering was shameful and
abhorrent to them. One ought to have no personal problems, and one's family relations
ought to be exemplary. In short, one must present a strong face to the
world. And that world includes even the therapist to whom one has come for
help. Thus it was common for clients to come to us "because my kids could use
some help...", or because "I have a friend who is suffering a lot...", and
only after such subterfuge, if at all, might the real story begin to come out.
There were other reasons as well for such resistance. For one thing, the mere
fact of seeing a psychologist might cause one to be labeled "mentally ill".
(In the FSU, as elsewhere, few people recognize the difference between
psychology and psychiatry.) For another, all forms of
psychotherapy in the FSU were - and for the most part still are - free
to the
client, and thus he has no "stake" in "getting to the point"; many clients
would come to us day after day, reciting as if it were a mantra, "Nothing and
no one can help me...nothing works", simply for the attention we gave them.
Such clients constitute a heartbreaking and exhausting drain upon the time and
energy of even the best and most dedicated of therapists. And I came to value
TIR for the ease with which it often enabled me to address and resolve my
clients' suffering without having to fight this resistance.
A case in point:
One of my patients, another young woman, had been married for less than a year
to "a very good man" with whom she had been very happy. She came to me,
however, complaining of a number of symptoms - disappointment, burnout, and
extreme anxiety. She had recently acquired them, and told me that she had no
explanation for them and that her despair was becoming unbearable. They
seemed to center on her husband, and though she said she still loved him, she
had become very cold ("frozen") towards him and was even considering a
divorce. Her husband, who loved her very much, was unable to do or say
anything that helped, and was thoroughly distraught by the thought of losing
her for "reasons" that weren't clear to either of them.
I asked her what had precipitated her feelings and - typically - at first
she
said, "just nothing ...
nothing special...." Then she recalled an incident a couple of months earlier
in which she and her husband had gone to a party. In the course of the
evening her husband had consumed a lot of alcohol and his drunken behavior had
embarrassed her a great deal. She had left the party with him, feeling
"terribly frustrated" and "ashamed". The next day, her properly and truly
contrite husband had apologized profusely and begged her to forgive him and
forget about it, promising that it would never happen again.
In fact, the husband normally drank very little and had certainly had no
trouble in keeping his promise. But though his wife had indeed forgotten the
incident within a few days (until remembering it again in my office), the
feeling of angst that had begun the night before had remained and grown worse,
and she had continued to be very upset with him and the marriage, feeling, as
she said, that "something terrible has happened, or is going to soon."
Normally a very social person, she had become withdrawn, no longer visiting
her friends or inviting them to her home.
In using TIR with her, I was able to avoid what would otherwise almost
certainly have been the impossible task of bringing her by analytical means to
a resolution of her situation. Instead, I simply asked her to review and
recount the incident at the party that she had identified as containing all of
her unwanted symptoms. Step by step, the procedure led her further and
further back in time until she found herself looking with growing clarity and
amazement at a period in her life and incidents it contained that she had
completely suppressed and forgotten, and in that single session, with no
suggestion or interpretation from me, she realized the source of her malaise
and the fact that it had nothing whatsoever to do with her good husband or her
present life. Her symptoms vanished, she reported feeling "easier and all
better", and she returned home, happy, to an overjoyed husband and a marriage
that had been restored.
What she had discovered was this:
She had grown up with her mother a single parent, her father having died when
she was only five or six years old, and having been divorced and separated
from her mother some time earlier. All her life she had remembered only this,
but during the session, as later emotional charge was "removed", she became
able to recall details of her earliest years that had previously been quite
unavailable to her - which details, for reasons that will appear obvious in a
moment, had been "triggered" by the events that had taken place at the party
with her husband and which had become unconsciously confused in her mind with
her present circumstances.
Specifically, her father had been an alcoholic and had abused her mother
terribly. She recalled her mother crying, and saying that she hated him, but
after the father's death, her mother never spoke to her again about these
episodes, and they had been totally forgotten. These memories brought her to
the end point of the session. Feeling as if she had "taken off something very
heavy" - a statement I've heard echoed in many TIR sessions I have given -
she
realized that her recent despair had stemmed from the fact that she had
identified with her mother to such an extent that a single instance of her
(affectionate and utterly non-abusive) husband's drunkenness had been
sufficient to drive her into fear and to convince her that she would suffer
terribly if she permitted her marriage to continue. "Now I know where those
feeling came from," she said, "and they're not going to rule my life any
more!"
Though I found its ability to resolve such early traumatic experiences to be
one of the most important therapeutic aspects of TIR, it was not the only one.
TIR creates a very comfortable atmosphere for the client; its use precludes -
practically as well as philosophically - any consideration that the client is
"ill". On the contrary, by enabling the client to reach her own insights
without any interpretation or evaluation on the part of the therapist, TIR
makes her the more active and responsible of the two session participants in
the process of "viewing" her own life and experience. She, and not the
therapist, resolves her difficulties.
Tea and TIR
Another related aspect of TIR that I found to be enormously rewarding is the
ease with which it can be used informally. Not infrequently, people around
one need help, but close friendship, reluctance, or a familial relationship
rules out the possibility of their coming to one as a therapist in a formal
setting. But they will talk over a cup of tea ... and tea and TIR can go
very well together. Though it is an elegant formal procedure, it doesn't have
to be presented as one in order to work small miracles.
Another case in point:
One of my closest friends in Armenia was a funny girl with a pretty face who
had been seriously overweight throughout her life. She had never gone and
would never go to a therapist to talk about her weight problem, and chose
instead to cope by playing the role of a totally happy person who attached no
significance to her personal appearance. In reality, it caused her a lot of
suffering, and maintaining the false facade made her tired and drained her
energy. She finally encountered a situation that forced her to confront the
fact the she really wasn't fine.
One morning shortly after that event occurred, we were having coffee together
and I observed that despite her attempts to be her "normal, happy self", she
really was unhappy and needed to talk about it. I told her nothing at all
about the TIR procedure, moving into it by simply asking her to tell me what
had happened. The regular acknowledgements inherent in TIR helped make its
intrinsic repetitions acceptable to her, and the "session" went beautifully.
Over its course, she realized - again, with no prompting whatsoever from me
-
that she really wasn't confident in her appearance, and came to accept the fact
that she really did have a problem. She dropped the facade and became truly
happy - not with her weight, but with the fact of discovering that the answer
to her problem lay not in the attitudes and behavior of others but in herself
... and that she could do something about it. She didn't have to be perfect
in order to change. "I know I can deal with this," she told me. She felt
very much better, and ended our "session" by saying "I'm so glad I don't have
to be 'Superwoman' any more!"
Children and TIR
One of my primary interests has long been in working with children affected by
trauma, and I found that this kind of informal use of the TIR procedure lends
itself extremely well to working with young people as well as adults. In
fact, the ease and rapidity with which TIR enables one to reach an "end point"
with a traumatized child is sometimes astonishing.
Unlike adults, children lack the experience to even begin to analyze what may
have happened to them. Typically, the only things accessible to them are
feelings and emotions. Thus, classically, most effective attempts to work
with traumatized children have tended exclusively to require the use of either
non-verbal or purely cathartic tools. TIR, however, seems to invite a second
and critical look at this requirement - a consideration I found myself
beginning to entertain one afternoon following my use of it with a young
friend of my then 10-year-old daughter, Irene. The two came home after school
together that day, and the friend was very visibly distressed.
"What happened?", I asked.
"I don't know ... nothing ... I just feel so unhappy today ....", she said.
"Did something happen in school?"
"No...."
"Try to recall the whole day", I told her, "and find some part of it that
wasn't OK."
After a moment, she came up with an incident: there had been a school rally
that morning at which she'd thought at one point that "all of us kids were
supposed to jump up out of our seats and give a loud cheer." She had done so
... but no one else had. Her schoolmates had laughed at her solo
performance, and she had been utterly mortified. Following that incident of
awful exposure, she had spent the rest of the day immersed in feelings of
abject shame that most of us as adults can recall having experienced - if at
all - only in our own fragile childhoods.
Using a simplified version of TIR, I had the girl run through the incident a
few times, and in a matter of only ten or fifteen minutes, she reached a
"classic" end point - certainly the equal of any that one might have wished to
have been able to "get across" to her using the more usual tools of
psychological intervention. She realized, all on her own, that the horror
wasn't really horrible! "What's the big deal?", she said to me after what was
perhaps only our third pass through the incident. "It could have happened to
anyone! It's not as if I got run over by a train or something!!" We ended
off ... and that was that. She was happy, and I was again impressed with the
power of the tool I had employed.
This short essay is not an exhaustive description of the valuable uses to
which I have come to believe that TIR can be put. I am convinced that the
procedure has very rich possibilities, many of which will be discovered only
through its regular and systematic use by many people. And this can be done,
I think, because TIR has the advantage of being a very "plastic", flexible
technique; in consequence, it can easily be added to the lay or professional
armamentaria of therapists and helpers of many and disparate backgrounds and
philosophical persuasions.
There is a sense in which TIR cannot be considered to be "plastic". During
the course I took at the Institute in Menlo Park, I was told that it cannot be
mingled successfully in a single session with other verbal techniques. I
believe that is true; the nature of the procedure itself, the particular
handling of the "viewer's" communication that is required to ensure its
successful use, and the "Rules of Facilitation" that govern the use of TIR
[and most of metapsychology's many other applications - Ed.] preclude such
fusion. But I found the procedure to work very well in alliance with non-
verbal relaxation techniques, particularly when people are very anxious and
tense and can't talk about their problems. One can begin a session by
relaxing the client, relieving her tenseness, and thus increasing her trust in
the therapist. Then one can go deeper with the procedure of viewing. The
client is made more comfortable and open with the therapist, and then her
problems addressed with TIR. The two procedures work very harmoniously
together.
My current understanding of the capabilities of TIR came to me only gradually
as I acquired more and more experience in its application, and I feel that it
represents a resource that as yet contains many undiscovered practical uses.
For having taught me the basics of the philosophy underlying TIR and its
technical possibilities, I am grateful to Gerald. Very carefully, step by
step, he helped me to overcome a daunting linguistic barrier, to understand
and eventually to accept as demonstrably valid the ideas of metapsychology, to
really "touch" the material I learned, and to make a new and welcome
approach to helping traumatized people an integral part of my own difficult
duties.
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